How the beehaw defederation affects us

https://lemmy.world/post/149743

How the beehaw defederation affects us - Lemmy.world

ou might have seen that we’ve been defederated from beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]. I think there’s some necessary context to understand what this means to the users on this instance. ## How federation works The way federation works is that the community on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] is an organization of posts, and you’re subscribed to it despite your account being on lemmy.world. Now someone posts on that community (created on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]), on which server is that post hosted? It’s hosted on both! It’s hosted on any instance that has a subscriber. It’s also hosted on lemmy.ml [http://lemmy.ml], lemmygrad.ml [http://lemmygrad.ml], etc. Every instance that has a subscriber is going to have a copy of this post. That’s why if you host your own instance, you’ll often get a ton of text data just in your own server. And the copies all stay in sync with each other using ActivityPub. So you’re reading the post that’s host on lemmy.world, and someone with an account on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] is reading the same post on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org], and the posts are kept in sync via ActivityPub. Whenever someone posts to that community or comments on a post, that data is shared to all the versions across the fediverse, and these versions are kept in sync. So up until 5 hours ago, they were the same post! ### “True”-ness A key concept that will matter in the next section is the idea of a “true” version. Effectively, one version of these posts is the “true” version, that every other community reflects. The “true” version is the one hosted on the instance that hosts the community. So the “true” version of a beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] community post is the one actually hosted on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]. We have a copy, but ours is only a copy. If you post to our copy, it updates the “true” version on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org], and then all the other instances look to the “true” version on beehaw to update themselves. The same goes for communities hosted on lemmy.world or lemmy.ml [http://lemmy.ml]. Defederation affects how information is shared between instances. If you keep track of where the “true” version is hosted, it becomes a lot easier to understand what is going on. ## How defederation works Now take that example post from earlier, the one on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]. The “true” version of the post is on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] but the post is still hosted on both instances (again, it has a copy hosted on all instances). Let’s say someone with an account on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] comments on that post. That comment is going to be sent to every version of that post via ActivityPub, as the “true” version has been updated. That is, every version EXCEPT lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works. So users on lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works won’t get that comment, because we’ve been defederated from beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]. If we write a comment, it will only be visible from accounts on lemmy.world, because we posted to a copy, but our copy is now out of sync with the “true” version. So we can appear to interact with the post, but those interactions are ONLY visible by other lemmy.world accounts, since our comments aren’t send to other versions. As the “true” version is hosted on beehaw, and we no longer get beehaw updates due to defederation, we will not see comments from ANY other community on those posts (including from other defederated instances like sh.itjust.works). The same goes for posting to beehaw communities. We can still do that. However, the “true” version of those communities are the ones on beehaw, so our posts will not be shared to other instances via ActivityPub. And all of this is true for Beehaw users with our communities. Beehaw users can continue to see and interact with Lemmy.world communities, but those interactions are only visible to other Beehaw users, since the “true” versions of the Lemmy.world communities (the ones sent to/synced with every other instance) is the Lemmy.world one. Communities on other instances, for example lemmy.ml [http://lemmy.ml], are unaffected by this. Lemmy.world and beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] users will still be able to interact with those communities, but posts/comments from lemmy.world users won’t be visible to beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] users, as defederation prevents our posts/comments from being sent to the version of these posts hosted on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]. However, as the “true” version is the one on the third instance, we can still see everything from beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] users. So we see a more filled in version than the beehaw users. ### Why can I still see posts/comments from beehaw users? Until they defederated us, posts/comments were being sent to lemmy.world, so we can see everything from before defederation. After defederation, we are no longer receiving or sending updates. So there are now multiple versions of those posts. ### Why can I still interact with beehaw communities? This won’t ever stop. You’ll notice that all posts after defederation are only from lemmy.world users. You won’t see posts/comments from ANY other instance (including instances that ) on beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org] communities. Those communities will quickly suck for us, as we’re only talking to other lemmy.world users. Your posts/comments are not being sent to any other lemmy. I highly recommend just unsubscribing from those communities, since they’re pretty pointless for us to be in right now. ### Why do I still see comments from beehaw users on lemmy.world communities? Again, comments from before defederation were still sent to us. After defederation, it will no longer be possible for beehaw users to interact with the “true” version of lemmy.world communities. Their posts/comments are not being sent to any other lemmy. They also aren’t getting updates from any other lemmy, as the “true” version of those communities is on our instance. ### Why do I see posts/comments from beehaw users on communities outside lemmy.world and beehaw.org [http://beehaw.org]? That’s because the “true” version of those posts is outside beehaw. So we get updates from those posts. And lemmy.world didn’t defederate beehaw, so posts/comments from beehaw users can still come to versions hosted on lemmy.world. The reverse is not true. Because beehaw defederate lemmy.world, any post/comment from a lemmy.world users will NOT be sent to the beehaw version of the post. ### This seems like it’s worse for beehaw users than for us? Yes. In my opinion, this is an extraordinarily dumb act by the beehaw instance owners. It’s worse for beehaw users than for us, and will likely result in many beehaw users leaving that instance. They said in their post that this is a nuke, but I don’t think they fully assessed the blast area. Based on their post, I don’t think they fully understand what defederation does.

@AgentGoldfish Hrm .. the actual dumb thing is not getting defederated but owerwhelming other instances moderation team because of the lack of moderation on _your_ site.
  • There are other, less heavy handed ways of accomplishing the same thing

  • This action doesn't actually do what they want it to do, since anyone can create a new instance and post,

  • This action does more to make the experience of their users worse

  • So yes, admins choosing to defederate another instance despite not understanding what that actually does and what the consequences of that action are is, as I said, dumb.

    @AgentGoldfish Did you read what _they_ wrote about the decision to defederate?

    He either didn't or is intentionally ignoring the points they made and his aggressive responses here are just riling people up even more instead of focusing us on the actual problem or solutions. People are literally calling beehaw admins "vile" and "despicable" just because they are trying to handle this unexpected and possibly undesired huge influx of people, when their community existed before any of these newcomers arrived (myself included) and their primary concern should be preserving their community and ethos.

    This is specifically the type of behavior that beehaw's rules aim to prevent, which is why they are more heavily moderated and why they had to defederate lemmyworld in the first place. The fact that OP is unable to understand this and is instead trying to start a lynch mob just makes me think that a temporary defederation was absolutely the right call to make for them.

    right? it wasn't anywhere near a big deal or an insult to other instances

    it's "we don't have the resources to handle any possible bad actors from big instances with loose registration requirements, so we're defederating from them until we feel that we can handle it"

    the correct response to this is "oh, okay; hope they figure it out such that they can federate with us again in the future"; people are blowing this out of proportion

    I don't know if I would want to use Bee in future honestly. I've been getting "holier than thou" vibes from a lot of bee users and the only time I have felt even slightly uncomfortable is when users are coming here attacking lemmy.world. I have felt very welcomed and invited and respected in this community - until the day that beehaw decided we are undesirables and not welcome and decided they wanted to classify my new cyber home as a pit full of degenerates.

    This whole experience is leaving a sour taste in mouth after what was a very positive first day. I made a community started posting content in it and everything. Now, I honestly don't know if I want to continue.

    All you people gaslighting us and acting like we aren't allowed to be upset or annoyed about this action is only making me like Beehaw less.

    bro, its not gaslighting

    stop that nonsense

    no one said youre not allowed to be upset, you just have to deal with it as the nature of this specific platform. it may suck but thats life.

    just gotta interact with other communities, bring the vibes up in other communities and it will soon no longer matter

    How is it nonsense? Beehaw has decided that our entire instance is unfit for wider consumption. They have labelled as as degenerates and walled off our content to keep people safe. If people are out there sabotaging our image and making things up about my new community where everyone has been extremely positive and kind and supportive then yes i am going to be upset about that.

    These divisions that exist weren't created by me. It was beehaw who quite literally divided us. I'm just annoyed about it, which I have every right to be, because it's a terrible decision with little thought involved and harms the entire service as a whole. Honestly, at this point, I can't help but wonder if they're deliberately sabotaging the platform under the guise of positivity.

    its not gas lighting. the term “gaslighting” to refer to a specific type of manipulation where the manipulator is trying to get someone else (or a group of people) to question their own reality, memory or perceptions.

    the bees aint making you question reality

    what they are doing may be a mistake and misguided, but again, this is a decentralized/federated social media platform. they get to do that

    the beauty of it, if we can focus on the communities in lemmy.world and other places that are federated here, it wont matter in the end. you will still be serviced content and comments

    i dunno man, its not personal is all im sayin

    its not gas lighting

    think about that sentence. It's my opinion. i would know if you're gas lighting me. you're still doing it.

    lol ok man sure

    ill leave you be i guess, im not here to argue

    but its objectively not gaslighting

    Okay man. Lets go through the events. First you tell me my opinion is wrong. I explain why I wholeheartedly feel this way. Then you start trying to undermine my opinion and personal beliefs on the matter. When I point it out, you deny it's happening, and act like I'm crazy and try portray me as overreacting.

    How is that not gaslighting? Lol. perhaps you're unaware of what gaslighting actually is. Either way, this is a very manipulative conversation, and I'm glad you're uncomfortable about it. Peace.

    because you are super mischaracterizing what ive said. i disagree with your opinion, thats true

    i didnt undermine anything, i disagree with your statements

    i told you what the definition of a specific abusive psychological technique, which you are not experiencing on behalf of a different instance

    im not uncomfortable at all, i just dont want to upset you. which it seems you are

    i am not making you question reality, i disagree with your opinions

    beehaw can do whatever they want with their instance, that is literally the point of this platform

    its not a personal attack on anyone here

    is it dumb? maybe

    but its not making you crazy

    no one said youre not allowed to be upset

    That's what you said. That just isn't true. A few people have said things to me that made me feel that way. You denying my right to feel this way is gaslighting. You don't get to control how other people are impacted by actions or comments.

    With all due respect, I have better things to do than argue about it. I feel gaslighted. You can keep gaslighting me about it if you want, but I think i'm finished here.

    why are you so upset in general? have people said you couldnt be upset about it? or were people trying to explain something about a pretty new piece of software? i

    ive looked through your history and its very aggravated.

    you do know that i cannot deny you your feelings, no matter how hard i might try? im just a UN somewhere in the world, your feelings are real and your own

    you can keep using gaslighting incorrectly too, i aint the word police, but you are using the word objectively incorrectly. which im a sucker for letting people know

    but maybe you should think about how your presenting yourself. believe what you want about whatever dude, but you do post here publicly, which implies your willing to have discussion about your opinions

    lol maybe this is why beehaw peaced out

    " have people said you couldnt be upset about it?"

    Yes, lots of people are downplaying our concerns and casting accusations at the instance. one thing that annoys me is how many people are classifying lemmy.world as unfriendly or full of trolls. That upsets me because everyone here has been very kind and friendly to me except for the people talking about how unkind and unfriendly we are. This is a reputation that is extremely damaging as it drives away positive users and attracts trolls to our server. Things like this should not be done lightly and I have actually gained a bit of ill will towards bee over these selfish actions that harm Fediverse as a whole.

    People are literally coming here and accusing us of "starting a lynch mob" in this very post. Simply because the guy said this was a dumb decision. Sayin we are "aggressive" for criticising this post. Accusing us of brigading and harassing the beehaw hosts. They even said that we are undesirable. And that's just one example, there are multiple people here doing it.

    All of these things were caused by beehaw and their inability to mod their instance. How is that my fault? And why am I not allowed to be upset by this?

    you are allowed!

    but i dont agree with you

    you see the difference right?

    ive been in the same threads and I have seen none of what you're talking about, even looked through your history

    mostly it seems to be people trying to reasonably explain thats the game we're playing. they get to do that, and they will not be the only one. Federation and all this is a fairly new thing, there will be pains like this going forward.

    in addition, they have not made it permanent. it was about their carefully crafted community. is that lame? maybe, but thats the point of a decentralized platform. Their admins get ultimate control, lemmy.world gets the same freedom

    and further more, the whole reason this spat started was your claim of gaslighting happening to you because of some commenters disagreeing with your opinions. which that doesnt fit the definition of the very serious and very damaging technique

    Honestly, not really. if you respected my feelings you wouldn't continually try to invalidate them, even if you do think you are right. That's emotional manipulation and gaslighting.

    how am i being invalidating and disrespectful?

    you are upset, thats ok! i dont think thats invalidating. you get to feel however you want, it is annoying that day 2 of my being here there is already some drama

    i just dont agree thats its something to be that upset about or to the severity of the problem

    its not blackmail, its not gaslighting, nor emotional manipulation

    i just dont agree with the opinions you have stated

    That's fine. You don't have to agree. I would appreciate some respect though. I have told you multiple times this is a bit upsetting for me and you continually argue with me about it and tell me my feelings are not up to your standard.

    quote me

    i never said that at all. i have done nothing but respect you and your feelings about this matter, while giving you my quite reasonable take

    i know we dont have to agree, thats why were not in the walled garden right? i welcome opinions that are different than mine, but you also have to respect what im saying right?

    which it certainly doesnt feel like your giving me any benefit of doubt or anything. just assume im just some jerk

    ive been in the same threads and I have seen none of what you’re talking about, even looked through your history

    the bees aint making you question reality

    you just have to deal with it as the nature of this specific platform. it may suck but thats life.

    While I'm quoting, you also asked about threads where people have been saying those things I mentioned before.

    He either didn’t or is intentionally ignoring the points they made and his aggressive responses here are just riling people up even more instead of focusing us on the actual problem or solutions. People are literally calling beehaw admins “vile” and “despicable” just because they are trying to handle this unexpected and possibly undesired huge influx of people, when their community existed before any of these newcomers arrived (myself included) and their primary concern should be preserving their community and ethos.

    This is specifically the type of behavior that beehaw’s rules aim to prevent, which is why they are more heavily moderated and why they had to defederate lemmyworld in the first place. The fact that OP is unable to understand this and is instead trying to start a lynch mob just makes me think that a temporary defederation was absolutely the right call to make for them.

    https://lemmy.world/comment/214981

    well i still dont see disrespect or invalidation of they way you feel, unless defederation makes you question what is real around you, which i guess i assumed you didnt feel "crazy or insane" due to people disagreeing with you

    and did you even read that thread? this is what you replied to that i saw

    right? it wasn’t anywhere near a big deal or an insult to other instances it’s “we don’t have the resources to handle any possible bad actors from big instances with loose >registration requirements, so we’re defederating from them until we feel that we can handle it”

    the correct response to this is “oh, okay; hope they figure it out such that they can federate with us again in the future”; people are blowing this out of proportion

    how was that gaslighting or disrespectful to the way you felt about it. where am i being disrespectful, outside of disagreeing with you?

    Edit: furthermore aren't you doin the same thing

    a reply of yours further down

    I don’t believe you to be honest. I haven’t seen any hostility towards beehaw admins, or any toxicity whatsoever on the fediverse at all, whether lemmy.world or otherwise. You claim that the only thing you see is people being extremely hostile. So where are they?

    are you not, by your definition gaslighting them?

    Look man, honestly, I don't want to talk to you at this stage. You started all of this because for some reason you got personally offended at my use of the word gaslighted. I felt gaslighted. I still do now, whether you like it or not. And, the thing is, every time you tell me I'm not allowed to feel gaslighted, you're doing it more. You're like the paradoxical cretin; despite all your misdirections some truth leaks through nonetheless.

    At this stage, you're making me consider whether I want to use fed at all. I left reddit to get away from people like u. Peace.