@randulo Most of my online-discussion interests are met through Hacker News and Mastodon, for now.
I've been at a point for some years where if I'm really interested in learning more about a topic, I'll find a suitable author and read them (or listen to lectures), and perhaps occasionally email. (I try to be exceedingly respectful of their time.)
The level of clue I'm seeking tends not to be in much evidence in larger discussions, and generally leaves pretty quickly if conditions deteriorate even slightly.
I've been aware of Lemmy for a few months, I think. kbin just popped up on my radar in the past few days. I've been on Tildes for ... six or seven years now, though I post there infrequently. Even Hacker News is mostly useful as a link aggregator rather than discussion site (though there are occasional gems in that regard).
I miss the tight group that could discuss things intelligently on one anothers' posts at Diaspora*, and may still find my way back for that. Hosting such a group independently and on a platform better suited to such discussion would be a real bonus. Something between a blog, CMS, and/or Wiki maybe.
Scale ruins conversation.