Miss PearlWhy Miss Pearl Will Have No Friends:
I'm weirdly obsessed with telling Dommes making F/m content to pay their subs. If you need him for the picture, he is doing real work.
Miss Chris@Omisspearl Some might argue that to serve is payment enough. Or that these subs don't want to be paid for their service, they want to serve without financial strings attached.
@MissChris and they would be completely ignoring the context this is taking place in. It also has a knock back destructive effect on lifestyle only femdom and the development of male submissive performer talent.
If a femsub was being asked to perform in porn for free or even pay for the privilege we would correctly identify it as labour exploitation. The average male Dom shooting commercial content would get laughed out of the room, or accused of taking advantage of the subs who participate. Ditto if someone was shooting M/m, or F/f. While you can make an exception for the common case of porn as a small family business, where earnings are shared, the more common instance is not ok.
While I get the compulsion to provide genuine utility with one's service and the fantasy of exploitation being hot, this is a pretty clear case of unethical behaviour we tolerate because, at best, we assume dommes really don't have much real power. ++
@OmisspearlIn speaking more on lifestyle subs, not professional subs. I'm also not being gender specific as to who the sub nor Dom is.
In the same vein you do not thank a sub for their service, you acknowledge their unconditional "gift" they provide.
If I paid some of my subs to film fun non profit making content with me they would be offended. I do not shoot content for money. I do it for fun, and those invited to participate are lucky for the chance.
@MissChris I absolutely say thank you when I receive service. I also appreciate that skilled submission is just as valuable as skilled dominance and very much appreciated. Indeed, the non-payment of male subs in porn is one of the reasons why the vast majority of this content can't attract and nurture good talent. Entirely from a lifestyle only Domme perspective we are pretty unilaterally in agreement the comparison to M/m is night and day for what they achieve because F/m content is largely produced to please other male subs by focusing on the domme.
Otherwise, to claim a "thank you" undermines my dominance or their submission would be absurd- this is applying the personal preference of some individuals - at the very least one would hope people are familiar with praise kink- but beyond that, the rigidity you are describing is not normal.
@Omisspearl thank you is so very common. We say it all day long to people we do not know. I choose to acknowledge my submissives service in a *special* way. For my alpha, that happens to be Good Girl. But I get what THEY prefer to be called in their praise kink, and then use that. Again, thank you is so very common, it's virtually an insult to my Girl.
Speaking of normal, it's really not normal to criticize how other Dommes practice their personal D/s relationships. So on that note, my side of this conversation is ending.