I don't regret my doctorate. I don't.

But if I had everything to do over again, I would *never* get a PhD.

It narrows your options in ways you'd never imagine. But that's not why.

The process of getting a PhD--at least, at this point in time--is inherently abusive. It's cruel. And it demands that you accept the abusiveness, the capriciousness, the lack of control over your own life and your own destiny, as both appropriate and inevitable. That you internalize the abuse and perpetrate it against yourself, without end. That service to others is everything, that you don't deserve time to yourself, that you never,ever deserve a vacation from your work, that your only human value is in whatever knowledge you have--knowledge which is constantly devalued and denigrated by others.

The PhD process is nothing short of hazing.

I love teaching at university. It is a great joy in my life. But it wasn't worth the price of admission, and I can never get off of this ride now.

Think twice before you walk this path.

@Impossible_PhD Yes, you're absolutely right. I was talking to a neighbor who had just defended his PhD. He was still decompressing from the whole thing. He had been a Marine before...

He said that the PhD process was much more abusive and horrible than anything he had to do as a Marine.

And, I was the only PhD at my work for quite a long time. Even when it's not true, I get told that I'm an "out of touch academic" all the time.

@imwillow @Impossible_PhD
"Out of touch academic"?

Even when it is true they should just keep their bitter jealous yaps shut.

Next time you can ask them whose touch are you out of, exactly, becos not theirs, apparently.

@GertyBz @Impossible_PhD It's mostly a way to knock me down a peg when I get "uppity" about things like best practices, lol.
@imwillow @Impossible_PhD
Right, because "downity" was what saved those Ohio people from that train, amirite?