EricaJoy 
massive layoffs just after forcing everyone to move back to where their assigned office is located is…a choice. telling people they are fired by email is…a choice. telling people they are fired via email while they’re in a whole other state for a client meeting is…a choice.
everything that is happening with these layoffs and how they’re handled were choices that were actively made. as you embark upon your next job hunt (hopefully after some time off) remember that your job is your job. not (usually) your family. not your identity.
i fell into that trap some years ago. i had to remind myself: you are not your work. so i say the same to everyone impacted by the layoffs happening in tech: you are not your work. you are so much more than that. you are a whole human, no matter what choices a company made.
remember who you were before that job. remind yourself of what you loved…what you loved to do. not to sound too woowoo, but if you’re able to, spend some time reconnecting to yourself, the complete, whole person who existed before this job and vow to never lose yourself again.💖
Kyle Hughes@ericajoy this is my first time crying after reading a thread on Mastodon
Feoh@ericajoy this resonates so much! I wrote an article about this problem that I referred to as “the ego trap“ after realizing I had experienced it rather sincerely to the point where I ended up in the hospital.  https://www.feoh.org/posts/hacking-wetware-antipatterns.html
Christian Kent@ericajoy yes!!💕 I've been told the difference between (cliché) American work culture and (cliché) Australian work culture is …
Live to work
Work to live
Every time I go on vacation I realise I have a huge non-work bucket list, and my life needs to accomplish them. This started after a great tip from a productivity coach -- make lists for your work life, but also your non-work life. Progress feels good in either one!
Martha Howell@ericajoy
After watching a half dozen layoffs at my former job, I saw how it can really hit people hard. Give yourself a week to be angry and bitter, then move on. It's not a reflection of your worth, and it's so frequent now that it's not a black mark on your resume. Move on, and don't look back.
After watching a half dozen layoffs at my former job, I saw how it can really hit people hard. Give yourself a week to be angry and bitter, then move on. It's not a reflection of your worth, and it's so frequent now that it's not a black mark on your resume. Move on, and don't look back.
Peteryour job is not your family at all, and the places that tell you it is a family are about to tell you to drink the koolaid (remember where that phrase came from).
Michael Klein@ericajoy it feels like it was choices carelessly made. Which is almost worse. They didn't lay off somebody who was out of state for a client visit on purpose, they probably didn't even realize they did, not did they give a fuck.
John Panzer@michaelklein @ericajoy They laid off an engineer who was on all, and he pinged secondary to hand off via personal phone as his last action since he was cut off from internal access.
They laid off a new mom who was literally in labor when the ax fell.
“Careless” doesn’t begin to describe it.
Lars Marowsky-Brée 😷@ericajoy So, yes: this was horribly handled, absolutely inhumane, and that is one logical consequence to take away from this in the current system everywhere.
But.
That's not a healthy attitude to be required for something that dominates our waking hours.
We need to burn the system, and foster orgs that are not as toxic.
But.
That's not a healthy attitude to be required for something that dominates our waking hours.
We need to burn the system, and foster orgs that are not as toxic.