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Rabbi Danya RuttenbergCorrect headline:
When Parents Arenβt Safe For Kids To Come Out To (But Possibly Others In Their Life Are)
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Itβs not 1983 anymore. There are zero excuses for this.
Bellis Coldwine@TheRaDR I commented on this as a teacher with trans students. My school has a strong Gay-Straight alliance, admin is supportive. We're VERY specifically told never to out students to their parents because they could literally be in danger. Names are tricky because of DOE rules, but we respect preferred pronouns. That article is basically entitled parents whining about schools supporting their kids when their own children don't trust them to come out. They should blame themselves.
@TheRaDR I'll add that my cousin worked with homeless teens who were thrown away for being gay or trans. Parents DON'T always know what's best for their kids- or want what's best for them. That's why schools have so much extra responsibility heaped on us- we're practically raising people's children for them.
T.C. HarrisEven when parents are safe, it's not something we're owed. If I had decided to change my gender in high school, I wouldn't have wanted to tell my parents at first. They weren't going to beat me, but they would be awkward AF. I wouldn't want to deal with that, and my kids shouldn't have to either.
If my kid wants to be a girl or a boy or an enby at school, I can find out when my own child tells me.
Charlotte@TheRaDR I saw that headline on the NYT homepage earlier and then quickly scrolled passed it because I was not in the mood to get angry at this nonsense. Apparently the article says exactly what I thought it would based on that headline. π
Gwen@chaostheorie @TheRaDR I skipped it too. I knew what was going to be in it.
John Deuel@TheRaDR The New York Times is becoming more toxic every damn week it seems like.
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Roberta Millstein ππ±π©ππΌββ@TheRaDR @Cynthia43 I thought we already went through this with minors who want to have an abortion.
Dami@cepaea @TheRaDR @Cynthia43 We did. And about teens who might have been assaulted, or who need STD testing. There's a reason many states have laws giving teens medical privacy now. And why a lot of hospitals will ask kids whether they feel safe at home.
GlobaltomStudents are *adults*. They are over 18, with all the rights and responsibilites that come with that. They are not obliged to tell their parents anything.
Meanwhile, I hope those parents wonder their adult offspring *chose* not to tell them...
(EDIT: I thought "students" here meant post-secondary students. UK English use kicking in - I'm used to the word "pupil" for children at a school. The second paragraph still applies)
SΓΆren@Globaltom @TheRaDR this article is (mostly?) about teens < 18
When my son came out as trans we both did some video sessions with a local support group and I was quite taken aback by the type of questions they asked him regarding his safety. It was a real eye-opener for me and made me aware of just how bad things can be for trans youth.
RuggedBroad@TheRaDR as one of 2 very supportive parents of a trans kid I can tell you that our kid changed his gender with his GSA pals before we knew about it. It's pretty normal.
The NYT continues to disappoint.
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πͺ¬@TheRaDR literally 1983
jsj@TheRaDR With each passing day I feel better about canceling my subscription.
ani betts@TheRaDR I just read this article and it was absolutely infuriating, calling for a policy that absolutely ends in dead kids
Treebearddave@TheRaDR that grammar is brutal.
@TheRaDR didn't the NY times also say that asking for privacy was stupid
Drooling Fan Girl@TheRaDR I donβt suppose any of them had the reaction of, βOk, good for you that you had someone to talk with, can I help? What do I need to know?β
*crickets*
@TheRaDR ummmm what
Berkubernetus@TheRaDR of course they want us to sympathize with bigots. Who do you think writes the Times?
Mike Habegger@TheRaDR they just pushed this article as a notification to all iOS users. Like half hour ago. Fml.
atom.ai@TheRaDR stop sexualizing kids.