@shademar That's real, and makes me think of the phrase used by a lot of disabled people and advocates: "nothing about us without us." Sometimes I personally feel alienated by what seems to be mostly neurotypical people centering an "ideal brain" picture when I listen to a talk or read a paper on ASD, I can only imagine what it's like for you.
If you ever felt like writing more on your experience I'd definitely read it. I really believe people who have whatever condition is under discussion should be given the mic (if they want). There's a big difference between experiencing something and studying it from the outside, and the former doesn't get heard enough for a variety of reasons that would need their own thread.