magentaJan 18, 2023
jessica by the bay

I think I realize what it is about timelines that strikes me so much. We often say that you can see it in the eyes and I think that's definitely a part of it.

But I think what it comes down to for me is in the post transition picture I see a person who has finally been LIVING.

Jan 18, 2023 at 4:05amWeb
Show threadjessica by the bayJan 18, 2023
It's in their posture. Their hair, their makeup if they have any, their clothes. It's a person who has been actively living a life and it's fucking beautiful.
Show threadMari Jax šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøJan 18, 2023
@rooster Yes that's it. That's the feeling I get looking at them, but I couldn't verbalize it
Show threadjessica by the bayJan 18, 2023

@maritroniuity right? It seems so obvious but hard to put into words.

In that moment they are carrying the weight of a life finally realized. It's not even just smiles and happiness it's the integrated moments that accumulate in us to make us bloom.

Show threadDon MeltonJan 18, 2023
@rooster @maritroniuity I can definitely see the bloom, the glow of the new life. I imagine being born---in this case reborn---while you're fully aware of it makes the excitement of that experience something that you won't just forget like a baby. It's gonna come out in yours eyes and lots of other places. And that's just wonderful.
Show threadFreefiona85Jan 18, 2023
@rooster that is very true. Seeing someone who FINALLY can live their life properly. After being put on the mask for so long.
Show threadTin Jan 18, 2023
@rooster I'll paraphrase a dear friend who was in my first trans support group when I was starting to transition. "Trans people are forced to be honest, at least once in their lives, in a way that very few people are ever asked to be honest. With that honesty comes an integrity that is seared into us. You can see it in the dark."
Show threadThe Chaotic Good šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøšŸ³ļøā€šŸŒˆšŸ––Jan 18, 2023
@tin @rooster oh. Is that why Iā€™m not a super wealthy sell out YouTuber but a struggling one instead?
Show threadIza Running AgainJan 18, 2023
@tin @rooster this rang so true I'm now crying
Show threadAngela QuintonJan 18, 2023
@rooster it is a reverse death. Life filling a vessel, turning it over the months and years from a husk to a thing so vibrant that every example of it is a new lesson in joy
Show threadOfficially-JoanneCJan 18, 2023

@rooster

You are right, I am someone who gravitates toward someones eyes. It is the first thing I notice and I get a vibe from it.

Show threadMeganJan 18, 2023
@rooster I had a friend that I hadn't seen since before my transition, and he told me it felt like the "weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders." I thought I had been hiding it better than that, but I guess not. He wasn't wrong, that is how I felt.