Amelia

Shout out to everyone else who was "just interested in being supportive of queer people", who "didn't really have a reason" but started researching neurodiversity to "understand others better", or who "just really wished people were kinder to trauma survivors" without being sure why...

For everyone who has had the moment when you realize that the unheard, marginalized voice you've been trying to amplify for so long is actually your own.

Love y'all. In case nobody else has said it yet, welcome home.

Jan 6, 2023 at 7:38pmWeb
Show threadAJ (Rising Soul)Jan 6, 2023
@mordremoth oh hi, thanks, that was me! <3
Show threadMile High BrendanJan 6, 2023
@mordremoth On the first point, in my case it wasn’t self-discovery that redefined the “why” of my lifelong support of queer people, but rather, when all 3 of my kids, one after the other, came out as some flavor of LGBTQ+. 🥰🏳️‍🌈❤️
Show threadAria  ​Jan 7, 2023
@mordremoth ::side-eyes her list of links to voice-training Discords, kept around and shared for years just to be an ally, no other reason I swear::
Show threadkatveJan 7, 2023
@AriaGrace @mordremoth *^^ where*
Show threadAria  ​Jan 8, 2023

@katve @mordremoth

"Scientifically Augmented Voice" https://discord.gg/aqyV3QBX and

"Scinguistics: Science, Singing, Linguistics" https://discord.gg/qHwSFpRS

Just the two so not much of a list, but hopefully helpful 

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Show threadBuster McNuttJan 7, 2023

@mordremoth

Let empathy guide the way.

Show threadIan Lain HatchJan 7, 2023
@mordremoth thanks! And to you too
Show threadJennifer Moore 😷Jan 7, 2023

@mordremoth

Aaah, this is lovely.

(from a queer-friendly person who turned out to be queer :-) )

Show threadTamsin (Magical Girl™ Remix)Jan 7, 2023
@mordremoth Thank you, on multiple axes. 💕
Show threadGemma MJan 7, 2023
@mordremoth 👍🌈🦄 
Show thread🕯 rEffJan 7, 2023

@mordremoth Wow, 3/3. And plurality as well. And the number of times I googled "signs of emotional abuse" before realizing why was a bit sad.

I've gotten a bit better at listening to my subconscious at this point, I hope.

Show threadalways tired (moved to chaos)Jan 7, 2023
@resigned_effulgence @mordremoth plurality... hit 4/3
Show threadAmeliaJan 7, 2023
@project1enigma @resigned_effulgence We left our plurality off (for a combination of brevity and the fact that it doesn't come up for us on this account much) but uh... Yeah, same, heh.
Show threadalways tired (moved to chaos)Jan 7, 2023
@mordremoth @resigned_effulgence Good combo ;)
Show threadalways tired (moved to chaos)Jan 7, 2023
@mordremoth ouch. 3 strikes for the price of one
Show threadLady Bertram's pugJan 7, 2023
@mordremoth it's lovely how many folks relate to this. In my case, queerphobia had always inexplicably raised my hackles long before that moment of "Oh... well now everything makes sense. "
Show threadEwen at LargeJan 8, 2023

@mordremoth

💚

Show threadIris van Rooij 💭Jan 8, 2023
@mordremoth 💜🌈🧠
Show threadskye it/its 🏳️‍⚧️Jan 10, 2023
@mordremoth why are you calling me out like that 🤭 though tbf the time it took from "oh, a piece of information on autism, let's research this further so I can understand my brother better" to "oh, that's me" was like 3 business days
Show threadSara Joy Jan 10, 2023
@mordremoth there are still a few of us around who are feeling compassion and empathy without being one of the marginalised too :)
Show threadIza Running AgainJan 10, 2023
@mordremoth took me a lot of years to get here, but I'm glad I made it
Show threadRules Don't WorkJan 10, 2023
@mordremoth
Show threadWillow Jan 12, 2023
@mordremoth shout out to 2-month-ago me who joined tech.lgbt because “they’ll have better moderation policies, and I like queer people better, anyhow”.
Show threadMojosueJan 12, 2023

@mordremoth

Heh very right. Watch yourself and others for uncharacteristic strong reaction to chit chat.
I nearly took my best mates head off when she sounded like she was trying tonprevebt her grandson being 'labelled with some shit'.
I told her firmly and clearly it could result in a bigger trauma if his whole family keep telling him its alright and just 'deal with it quietly'. I was raging inside and saw my little me go No Not Again.

Show threadMojosueJan 12, 2023

@mordremoth

She is the one who worked out his distress because he needed
these kinds of things.

A) something in both hands
B) toes cut out of his fancy costume

She knows, it's in her herself and she doesn't want to face it yet.

Unfortunately for her, I'm her buddy, so she gets reminders demonstrated by me every time we meet and she let's me be my dopey self.

She can't help herself help it out of others..

Show threadMx. Desi (has newborn arc)🏳‍⚧Jan 12, 2023
@mordremoth actually doing the research on Neurodivergance was not an option for me for a very long time due to my age (the information just wasn't out there and I predate regular internet use.) But there was the idea that some people experience and interact with the world differently because of something about them that wasn't choice. The other two? Yep! And a wish for ableism to die before I realised I experience it.
Show threadaminarra_she_herJan 13, 2023
@mordremoth I wonder if this is why "everyone knew" before I did 🏳️‍🌈 welcome home to me, who didn't realize it until 33.
Show threadFrost「｜｜霜の狼｜人面獣心」🐺❄️Jan 27, 2023
@mordremoth "oh plurality is so cool and fascinating!" ... apparently there was a reason for that... :3
Show threadFrost「｜｜霜の狼｜人面獣心」🐺❄️Jan 27, 2023
@mordremoth (and now that we know we're plural I STILL find it equally cool and fascinating, hah)
Show threadAmeliaJan 27, 2023
@frostwolf Oh do we ever know *those* feelings, hehe!
Show threadFrost「｜｜霜の狼｜人面獣心」🐺❄️Jan 27, 2023
@mordremoth oh!! cool! =^.^=
Show threadRoisin MoriartyFeb 3, 2023

@mordremoth Thank you! This is me x 3. First, realising I'm bi, then asexual/aromantic, and finally the mind-blowing realisation that I'm autistic (all in my late 40s, early 50s; talk about a late bloomer!😁).

For anyone wondering - yes, you can be bi and ace; physical and sexual attraction don't always go hand-in-hand.

Show threadseb hanlon 😷Mar 1, 2023
@mordremoth @PaladinBard 🎵 silent all these years
Show threadator robotMar 1, 2023
@mordremoth i maintain that i would have turned out been queer friendly/supportive whether or not i was myself. the amount of queer literature i consumed before realising it should have been more of a giveaway to me though. along with other things. um, yeah :)
Show threadMartaMar 1, 2023
@mordremoth WHY ARE YOU DESCRIBING ME 
In all seriousness though, it's fascinating why it happens like that. It's like, "I wanna do things for gender equality though I'm not a woman" --> turns out I'm also a woman xD
Show threadhyratelMar 2, 2023
@mordremoth a tumblr classic, "Either ADHD posts need to stop being so Relatable or I need to get Tested."
Show threadNarrelle M. HarrisMar 6, 2023
@mordremoth thank you.
Show threadEther DiverApr 28, 2023
@mordremoth oh shit, it's me
Show threadAlison WilderApr 28, 2023
@mordremoth the call is coming from INSIDE THE BUILDING!
Show threadNoahApr 28, 2023
@mordremoth I started fighting for my kiddo to get the support they need in school after their autism diagnosis and the longer the fight went on and the more I learned about the autism spectrum, the more frequent the “oh damn, I think I might be autistic” moments became. It’s been cathartic in a way. I can’t retcon my own trauma but I can help ensure it’s not repeated for my kid and that feels pretty amazing. 💚 Thanks for posting this.
Show threadAmeliaApr 28, 2023

@monkeyninja Both of my parents are neuro-beautiful in different ways, but they both still resist even acknowledging that, let alone the harm they passed on to me.

So thank you for being open to the reality of your own story, and resolving not to let that cycle continue. It really does make a difference.

Show threadJaycieApr 29, 2023
@mordremoth 💜💜💜💜💜