I mean, if you can't understand how the act of telling us that we are forbidden from recounting our own experience comes from the same place and structures as telling us that our experiences aren't real and that we're imagining the bad things that happen to us or that WE'RE the problem for bringing it up, then you need to go read some more Black feminist thought and actually pay attention when POC try to tell you something before you start trying to regulate what and how we're allowed to speak, at all.