taedryn 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 29, 2022

Hey cis friends, have you ever fantasized about being a different gender? Any context: sex or cool clothes or whatever, no shame attached.

Some trans folks I've talked to think everyone questions their gender, but the few cis folks I've asked either say no, or only a tiny handful of times.

If none of these choices make sense for you, my DMs are open. (Edit: See also the secondary poll below, which has more options.)

Trans friends, please sit this one out, but please do boost for reach.

Never
24.2%
Maybe once or twice?
17.7%
A handful of times, ever
29.5%
Show results
28.6%
Poll ended at .
Show threadIpstenu (Mika E.) 🏳️‍🌈Dec 29, 2022

@taedryn my wife says “I wanted the social benefits” so add that on to your list.

But I wonder if that result changes with correlation to queers.

Show threadAlison CroggonDec 29, 2022
@ipstenu @taedryn Yes, I resented that some people said I was lesser because I wasn't a man. I resented that I struggled more because the things I did, that were considered unexceptionable for men, were not for women (or said, as an alleged compliment, that I wrote "like a man" - see Le Guin on "Pretend-a-Hims".)
Show threadAlison CroggonDec 29, 2022
@ipstenu @taedryn My father wanted a son and I wasn't one, as the oldest grandchild on both sides of the family I was a disappointment. I also didn't like being told off because I wasn't conventionally feminine enough. But I never felt that I didn't want to be a woman, I just wanted the freedoms/privileges I saw men enjoying.
Show threadstadtfräulein
@alisoncroggon @ipstenu @taedryn I can relate so much. I just wanted the same freedom, privileges, safety, body-autonomy and certainties that men automatically get by birth, but never not being a woman.
Dec 29, 2022 at 8:54amWeb