taedryn 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 29, 2022

Hey cis friends, have you ever fantasized about being a different gender? Any context: sex or cool clothes or whatever, no shame attached.

Some trans folks I've talked to think everyone questions their gender, but the few cis folks I've asked either say no, or only a tiny handful of times.

If none of these choices make sense for you, my DMs are open. (Edit: See also the secondary poll below, which has more options.)

Trans friends, please sit this one out, but please do boost for reach.

Never
24.2%
Maybe once or twice?
17.7%
A handful of times, ever
29.5%
Show results
28.6%
Poll ended at .
Show threadtaedryn 🏳️‍⚧️Dec 29, 2022

Follow-up (supplementary) poll, because now I'm feeling like my choices were a touch too presumptive: Same question, same audience, but maybe I missed the range I should have aimed for.

How often do you, as a cis person, fantasize about being a different gender?

Several times a year
24.4%
Several times a month
13.3%
Several times a week or more
7.4%
See results
54.9%
Poll ended at .
Show threade. hashman Dec 29, 2022

@taedryn Voted "show results" on both polls because neither's options describe my experiences.

Particularly when I was growing up, I frequently wished I was born a boy because I dealt with so much gendered shoehorning and pushback for not conforming.

As an adult, I have set up my life so I deal with this a lot less. I never wish I was a boy anymore, but when I deal with harassment and other gendered shit I definitely wish I was not perceived as a woman, because for many people "woman" is not "human being worthy of autonomy and respect."

I still downplay or outright hide my gender in many spaces, and I don't care what pronouns people use as a result, but this is not the same as wanting to be a different gender. I don't identify as trans or nonbinary, cis woman still feels closer to what I am, but I do see myself on the agender spectrum. 

edit: this post is clearly marked no boost and unlisted. If you boost it I will block you.

Show threadYes, *that* dawn personDec 29, 2022
@ehashman @taedryn It’s been quite common in my intersections with tech for women and female-presenting people in general to position themselves in ways that downplay both gender and sex characteristics. Hard to distinguish between presentation and internalized gender without close friendships and trust.
Show threade. hashman 
@thatdawnperson @taedryn I'm in a decent enough position that I've actually been able to play up my femme side publicly for most work and in-person stuff. But online it's too risky.
Dec 29, 2022 at 1:54amWeb