@mawhrin
@gwensnyder
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fediverse
I started of with identi.ca had Gnu social running, Friendica diaspora and now Mastodon. IMHO the best implementation yet. But it could be superseded by Nextcloud as it is simpler to install.
When newcomers start blowing of their tops what has to change and that we have to bend backwards to facilitate it, that irritates me whatever your cause is or how important you think it is.
Just settle and watch for a while discover how everything works. Find the limitless possibilities the Fediverse offers you. Be amazed how many minorities you will find here peacefully coexisting.
Then when you want changes find out how to make them. It is up to you and not some cabal to make the changes you want. You make them nobody else.
Not satisfied with the culture? Run your own server.
Not satisfied with the software. Go to github make requests or fork the software.
It's really easy. Don't demand. Participate and contribute. It's that simple.