Woozle Hypertwin

@bee @diddledani

Let's assume for the sake of argument that we're not talking about inaccurate findings, and we're also not talking about accurate findings being misinterpreted for political reasons or whatever.

If science were to find that trans people are actually confused somehow, then it would need to find a better solution than transitioning before anyone could say "we shouldn't support transitioning".

...and if it did find a better, happier solution, wouldn't you want to investigate that? I know I would.

For most of my life, I believed (because that seemed to be where the evidence pointed) that gender was entirely a social construct -- something you were socialized into -- and the idea of wanting to be a different gender than you "are" was a contradiction in terms.

...and I didn't want to believe that gender could actually be an innate property, because that would mean that girls were innately different from me in some way, and I absolutely did not want that.

...but then it turns out that gender is innate to some degree, and not necessarily correlated to your genitals or your chromosomes -- and hey, I'm actually a girl, brainwise; I just didn't look like it on the outside.

The truth sets us free.

Dec 13, 2022 at 3:28pmWeb
Show threadZingiberDec 13, 2022

@woozle @bee @diddledani I think I personally would still pursue transition, though perhaps it would be a good thing for some people to address dysphoria or confusion without transitioning. It would be nice to have more choices I suppose, if we are assuming a society that allows them all without gatekeeping. If I had taken a pill to ease dysphoria, it would probably have helped me transition easier or allowed me to avoid the decision for longer, but I still think I'd've done it eventually.

My journey to this point has been influenced heavily by play, social experimentation, and queer culture. I certainly discovered through that play that I am happier and more completely 'me' in transition. But it always felt like a choice; I could have lived with the levels of dysphoria I felt then, just not thrived. For me I think that choice is based on values of truth that are central to my personal self-understanding: specifically that my 'gut feelings', emotions, and intuitive revelations ('aha moments') reflect sometimes surprising aspects of truth that deserve careful and thorough investigation, even if they are very uncomfortable or unpopular. That may not be other people's reality or relationship to their truth, so I could see why they might choose to work through 'confusion' another way.

Show threadWoozle HypertwinDec 13, 2022

@Zingiber @bee @diddledani

There came a point in my early transitional thinking where I was worried that maybe I wasn't actually "female enough" for transition to be right for me, and I'd end up regretting it...

...and then I realized that it didn't all have to be a single package. I want the pieces of it that I want, and I don't have to want all the pieces in order for {those pieces I know I want} to be right for me.

(In my case that was SRS HELL YEAH, HRT yes please, lipstick big no, jewelry only for photo-shoots maybe, girlclothes maybe not but oh wait they get me gendered correctly more often and also are better at showing what little figure I have so yes please actually... and so on.)