Terrafied Kestrel 
Nothing will take the wind out of your sails like sitting in a Trans medicine waiting room and noting how beautiful and put together and womanly all the other girls are while you’re sitting there looking like an Uruk Hai on Halloween.
Man I feel like such a fraud. Hell I barely put on eye liner and couldn’t scrounge together more that a pair of jeans and a shirt with a bird on it (Put a bird on it!) and meanwhile here are all these women looking like they just walked off a studio set. Shit why am I here talking about surgical options if i can’t even commit to doing my nails?
Then a Trans masc dude walks in with every bit of casual masculinity I couldn’t pull off even when I was practicing in front of a mirror. Damn, situations like this make me feel like I don’t fit in anywhere.
I feel like I finally escaped Mars but I missed the launch window to land on Venus so am just gonna spin out into open space. Never landing anywhere. Just floating in nothingness.
Darla Donna v2.2@terrafiedkestrel Can you look for Elon's car? He parked it somewhere by there.
Amanda Spring 🏳️⚧️@terrafiedkestrel My cis butch female roommate does this just by breathing. Then again the reverse is also true.
One of the great thinkers of our generation once said: "Life is too short to blend in. - Paris Hilton"
I'm a white american who lives in Colombia. I don't quite fit in with the american expats, nor the Colombians. I don't quite fit in with the men or the women. But I fit in at least a little with all of the above. And I'm never boring.
Hugs girl, you got this!
@terrafiedkestrel You are validly female without doing your nails or makeup. Those women (trans or not) who look "studio made" make cis women feel bad too.
So actually its a supporting sign as you're living the fucked up womanly culture and feeling guilty about not making up enough.
Hell I'm doing that "kick back casually" post-transition thing right now. It's often all i can do to put on lipstick (only that) and drag my "comfy" (with paint stains) jeans behind out the door to fast food.
Emily GB 🏳️⚧️@terrafiedkestrel Not everyone dresses to the nines everywhere they go. Your expression of femininity is just as valid as anyone else's.
And I still can't even do eyeliner without looking like someone trying out racoon cosplay.
Jocelynephiliac 
@terrafiedkestrel I haven’t done my nails in four years. The wedding I went to last month was the first time I’ve put on a full face of makeup since 2020.
Your desire to relieve dysphoria has absolutely nothing to do with how glamorous you make yourself.
It isn’t about beauty, it’s about comfort.
Shady Jade@terrafiedkestrel <hug> It is SO easy to play the compare game. That's their style, that's their effort, it's not representative of cis women or trans women, seeking surgery or not. You're here to be more you (and you can only be you!) to escape some of the bits that make you feel less you.
You'll feel more yourself over time, in sudden little waves. It's surprising when it happens, and really, really welcome.
And nail polish is an absolute *pain in the butt*. I've given up on it 😅
Reborn_Cat_Mom@terrafiedkestrel I feel you. While I do my nails, I rarely do makeup. We all are valid no matter what we do or don’t do.
Khymera@terrafiedkestrel Because you deserve it. Even if you aren't up to decorations.
Drew@terrafiedkestrel I know how you feel. There are times I don't even feel like shaving my face much less putting on makeup. For 12 years or so I put off transitioning because I thought me liking to dress "feminine" was the reason I thought I was trans. Then I would think about how what we consider "feminine" is all made up and think well now I have no bases for saying I'm trans. It wasn't until I read the definition of gender dysphoria that I was like oh, I'm definitely a trans woman.
MagdaleneJaneway@terrafiedkestrel oh, my love, please don’t equate your womanhood with high fem. As a lifelong tomboy, I’ve learned that femininity is an option to put on if you feel like it.