It bothers me that people can’t see how marginalized people are guarding their safety and that we are encouraging them to do that rather than to work to make spaces safe for them.

- this place isn’t safe for me
- go to another place then
- I can’t find a place that is safe for me
- then make a place that is safe for you
- I made a place that is safe for me
- why won’t you associate with my place???
- it isn’t safe for me, so I had to disassociate from it
- THAT IS UNACCEPTABLE