New blog post: "Thoughts on Mastodon" https://nolanlawson.com/2022/11/22/thoughts-on-mastodon/

This was a tough one to write. Sorry if it's a bit of a downer.

Thoughts on Mastodon

Read the Tea Leaves

To be clear:

- I don't plan on shutting down toot.cafe. Ever.
- I don't plan on shutting down Pinafore. I'm happy to accept pull requests, and I may even tinker a bit as long as I find it fun.

I am just being honest and upfront about my feelings toward the fediverse these days.

To give more context: for me, Mastodon lost its luster when my wife stopped using it.

She was on "weird Mastodon." Her entire goal was to make funny jokes and boost and riff on other people's funny jokes. Mastodon for her was sheer joy.

She got driven off the platform by the replies. (She is a woman on the internet, after all.) Weird sexual innuendo, "well actually"s, and people not getting the joke. Plus the funny people left. It became un-fun for her.

I used to joke that I was guided by "wife-driven development" (WDD). She would complain about a UI issue in Pinafore, and I'd fix it.

I could tell she was using Mastodon because she was alternating between laughing and typing. I was helping to enable her joy! What a motivator!

When she left the platform, and asked me to delete her Mastodon instance (freedom.horse), the raison d'ĂȘtre of Pinafore died. That's why I largely stopped working on it.

@nolan I'm so sorry to hear that -- this is why I've wished (for *years*!) that Mastodon had an _allow-list_ method of federating, instead of a _block-list_. An allow list would allow people to slowly become part of the Fediverse, only federating with those they feel are friendly.

A block-list method, by comparison, is worse -- it allows people to be flooded right away by stuff they may not want.

I have no idea why this isn't a feature already!