Please keep inviting your disabled/chronically ill friends to things. We can't always come, but it means a lot to know we're still wanted.
My social circle has dwindled *dramatically* since I got sick, and the pandemic cut off 80% of what remained.
Even if I say no a lot it doesn't mean I never want to come. In fact, it means I want to see people more, when I'm able.
@Rhube I understand what you're saying, & I usually do keep inviting people if they indicate that they wish they could come.
1 thing that makes this tough is that, in many social circles, "wish I could" is also the exact behavior that politely indicates lack of interest, &, if repeated, is a "stop asking" hint + is rude to miss.
I wish we could change the widely-practiced etiquette for politely saying "never!" so that "not this time, thanks" could be taken literally more safely.
Dr Ro Smith
Sumana Harihareswara