Let’s be clear that CWs are great. But someone existing as different from you, as a marginalized identity, does not go behind a content warning. And talking about the discrimination they experience might make you uncomfortable—trust me, when I experience racism, it’s very uncomfortable. The response is to try and do something about it, not to tell them they’re making you uncomfortable.

And if all you can do about it in the moment is listen, that’s ok too. But telling them to put it behind a CW is telling them—telling us—that we, as people, aren’t welcome here.