@seth
1) Congratulations!
2) The baby will be more resilient than you think so everything doesn't have to be perfect
3) You will get tired, but you will be fine
4) You will get messy
5) Convenience for parents = more time + less stress
6) Accept help at any time
7) Breast vs bottle? How about both? Bottle convenient for Mum to get rest/space, Dad to bond
8) Most crying in first few months are about feeding, emptying, sleeping, winding. Keep repeating them until you find why crying

Good luck!