The Ghost of ÉmilieDo you consider yourself "sane"? #Poll
| Yes, I do | |
| No, I don't |
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If so, what's the least sane thing you've done?
I'm just going to start talking about whatever hell.
I've been talking with a particular person a lot recently, and... last night, I had a dream about them getting into an argument with me and us not being friends anymore...
I felt sad about that because... in a perfect world, we would be understanding towards one another and work it out... but since we don't live in a perfect world, what ends up happening a lot of the time is that you say something that makes them angry... and then they write a strongly worded message to you and block you...
Then you might cry for a while, and that's a normal response I suppose...
I saw Tio write Frankie a strongly worded message yesterday... and that made me upset for a moment, because I knew Frankie was just trying to start a conversation about something... Tio seemed not to understand that at all, but maybe he did.
Oh yes, vote on my precious poll. Thank you, thank you.
By the way, some of this may not make any sense.
I think that... no matter what I do... this friend will inevitably explode on me... because I've seen them do it to others, and I'm not perfect and I say stupid things sometimes. I can keep my mouth shut, which I'm good at, but I think I'll probably let something slip at some point.
I don't *want* that... I just think it's what'll probably end up happening. And what should I do when it does? Tell them, "No, you're wrong, and that's not what I meant"? I doubt they'll buy it, but I can try.
It seems like once someone's upset at you, there's no way to tell them otherwise. And that's really unfortunate.
Okay, so actually there are two scenarios... There's the first situation, where you say something, and you didn't intend for it to be taken as seriously as it did, and then someone starts going off on you about their interpretation of what you said... Then there's the second situation, where they understood you completely and are still mad at you. In the first situation, like I said, it's really hard to tell them otherwise.
In the second situation, you actually did do something wrong. In that case, you can try to correct your mistake so you don't do it again in the future. They might still be mad at you, though, like in the first situation... so you might just have to change for yourself, not them (since they might still go off on you and block you no matter what).
There's one particular person on fedi who was sexually harassing people... and they said sorry but still didn't change... That was annoying.
There haven't been any times on fedi where I've "gone off" on someone. I just don't see the point of it... because it doesn't teach them anything, and depending on how they take it, it can deeply hurt their feelings... so I don't do that.
Rokosun@thebiologist1117 Yes you're smart, its a good way of looking at things. And especially on the internet you have time to think about what you're writing, so you don't have to act on your emotions, just take your time.