Alex 
Thinking about the woman on tiktok (don't remember her name or the vid) who was talking about how a lot of white feminists and white lgbt ppl tend to protest their oppression not because they care about others in those groups, but because being a woman or lgbt is the only thing preventing them from becoming just as oppressive as straight white men, and that's how you end up with tenderqueers demanding everything be handed to them on a silver platter or ethnocentric white feminists
KaibleShe was referencing those two because it was a reply video. But I can't help but think it applies to way more than just women/queer identities. A lot of people see stratified hierarchies as some inevitable structure of life and rather than go against it, want to climb up to the top of it, or carve out some existence in it that involves stepping on others who they can see as lower than them.
Like when I think of people who share my ethnicities, a lot of them fled from genocide, imperialism, etc and then they still end up anti-black or sexist or super capitalist or inflicting the oppression they faced onto others if it means they're the side that "wins" (in their minds).
Or, for example "ricecels" (asian incels) who very clearly see how racism and sexism impact public perception of them (i.e. stereotypes of asian men as unsexy, effeminate, unromantic, etc) but who place all their ire onto asian women rather than wanting to challenge those social hierarchies. They WANT the racism to continue existing because it gives them an excuse not to address their own complicity in sexism and horizontal aggression.
not even doing armchair psychology here--there are former ricecels who have said this exact thing after managing to pull themselves out of that mentality.
Dr. Quadragon ❌