The violent vs. nonviolent distinction isn't the one we should be focusing on. The real issue is direct vs. non-direct

The vast majority of the vital direct action we should be doing is nonviolent. You can be a dedicated activist and avoid violence entirely and no one will bat an eye, as long as you do things that actually matter and don't get in the way of the people getting their hands dirty for the cause

This is *especially* true if you don't misidentify property damage as violence (it isn't). In that case, virtually *all* anarchist activism is nonviolent

Stop making this an issue when it isn't one. If someone doesn't want to be on the front-lines, they don't ever have to be. That's okay