@jovan yeah I get you, there have been a couple other big instances like that, where most of the users aren't aware of all that stuff from the beginning and it sorta floods out, (switter, sex worker instance is a big one, they moved over because Twitter started clamping down on them)
in the end usually it settles down within a reasonable amount of time, you're probably gonna get a lot of reports, etc, though
if you'd like, depending on your hosting, it might actually be possible to disconnect from the rest of the fediverse but personally speaking I like to see it grow in pretty much any way, so my personal preference would be to see y'all stick around