Emstop categorising enbys into “basically men” and “basically women” challenge
@em of course transphobes are transphobes and that sucks, but in my experience *tons* of cis allies and even a lot of binary trans folks do this too. i get that it can be hard to wrap your head around genders outside the binary but like. please try to do that mental work
@em this doesn’t bother me much personally, i’m fairly comfortable with most gendered words (both male and female)
but i know a lot of nonbinary folks aren’t, and it messes me up when i see otherwise cool people clearly thinking of them as either male or female (usually the gender they were assigned at birth, even when that’s clearly the one they identify least with)
using nonbinary people’s pronouns correctly is a good start, but it’s far from enough
@em like when someone comes out to you as trans, it probably takes some amount of mental work to start thinking of them as a different gender. that’s ok, changing your perception of someone takes time.
i think it takes the same kind of work to actually “get” the concept of nonbinary genders, especially if you’re binary yourself. and i’d guess everyone who’s gonna read this knows at least a few enbys, so it’s absolutely worth it to do that work for their sake
@em thanks for reading my entirely unplanned thread. be nice to your local enby today, especially if your local enby is me
Huldra@em @em yep. In my experience, a lot of binary allies treat us basically “binary gender X, but we use different pronouns and maybe present differently.” That is, they seem to see our gender as sort of window dressing on top of some more obvious gender, as opposed to an intrinsic inclination that’s as much a part of us as “woman” or “man” is to them.
sal
onion the boi@em (especially when we as enbies gotta do most of this work.... my brain still rebels sometimes and tries to sort shit into binaries (doesnt help speaking russian with everything being gendered...) but like if we fucking gotta try our damnest then everyone else fucking better)