sadieOct 22, 2018

Hey so

Matilde wrote a blog that devalues my agency & personhood. Smears me as a coward, calls into question my stability.

All I did was leave, yall. I have PTSD from the mental abuse, the emotional violence. I had to leave. She has been calling my phone for months. Texting too! All while telling everybody that I damaged her.

Let me clear up that while I was with her during recovery, she REPEATEDLY refused to listen to my concerns about possible infection, and refused to communicate with her doctor.
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When she moved out (literally down the street from me btw) if she did not have a bathtub that isn't an excuse to stop surgeons recovery orders.

Sitz Baths are a thing, where you sterilize a container and soak in it, its what I WILL BE DOING MYSELF. It's surgeon approved! Her refusal to care for herself is not somehow me causing her harm, it just is fucking not.

Her putting an older and undocumented trans woman on the fucking streets, because she didnt like her? That's harm.

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Show threadsadieOct 22, 2018

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Pushing me and pushing me until I helped her do it, no matter how much it upset me and stood against what I care and stand for? That's harm.

Verbally assaulting me during developing a game with her? That's harm.

History of Lashing out at me, asking me what I think I "deserve" when shes upset with me? Instead of having a genuine considerate and healthy conversation? Thats harm.

Show threadsadieOct 22, 2018

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Verbally assaulting me for wanting to get genital surgery???????????????????????????????????? THATS FUCKING HARM YALL THAT FUCKED ME UP REAL GOOD.

Verbally assaulting me for being emotional, for crying and asking her to be considerate of my needs? That's fucking harm.

Everytime I tried to get out she would give me a little bit of ground, telling me that its okay, then secretly shes yelling about how much she hates that she had to give me that ground.

Show threadsadieOct 22, 2018

She groomed me, she cultivated friendship with regressives and nazis

She is close friends with Evelyn Park, who she pretends is a nobody in her blog post, why does she have to keep lying about this.

She talks to her constantly, she calls her Mother, she NAMED HErSELF AFTER HER. Evelyn Park is a known nazi who has caused harm to many trans women

Show threadsadieOct 22, 2018

She groomed me, she tried to groom my partner, she groomed Ana, she attacked Emilie for being my friend and caring for me, she attacked Amy for being my friend and caring for me.

The damage she has done to us is not EXCUSABLE.

She has REFUSED OUTRIGHT when pressed about her actions and her connections to a Nazi.

She has been banned from spaces in toronto for her actions and associations.

Spaces that help and support vulnerable trans women keep her as far as possible.

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The people that Matilde has hurt, attacked, abused.

We are many, this is not some bullshit about queer organizations oppressing trans women, enough of the fucking fear mongering.

We got fucking 8 or 9 or so queers out there talking about what shes put us through. There are more who are still too afraid of her to be public.

None of this is okay. We didnt deserve what she did to us.

Oct 22, 2018 at 10:13pmWeb
Show threadsadieOct 22, 2018

I'm so glad we are all still here, still alive, and here for each other and any others facing this type of abuse.

If you have been hurt, gaslit, demeaned, groomed, you can get out, you are strong and I believe in you.

Show threadmoshboyOct 25, 2018
@slimekat sorry you had to go through all of this arielle.