kim karbdashian“I can’t be bigoted look at my checklist of marginalised friends” is the weakest fucking excuse ever btw and completely misses how systematic bigotry works.
S AAll cis people benefit from and perpetuate transphobia, all white people benefit from and perpetuate white supremacy, all abled people benefit from and perpetuate ableism and so on and so on. Treating your marginalised friends as a get out of jail free card from your responsibility to work on unlearning and living an anti-oppressive politic is not good.
You’re not being a good friend if you make excuses for someone you know who’s said something to upset a marginalised person. Maintaining a responsible relationship sometimes means telling people you respect that they are wrong. The friends who have done this for me are some of my closest.
The Whore of Blahbylon@mellymeep While certain forms of privilege do exist, it is rarely distributed in an equitable manner. Some people are more privileged than others. But to suggest that merely being cis perpetuates transphobia, or that being white perpetuates racism, is like suggesting that merely being female perpetuates abortion.