KalliopeSep 15, 2018

Forgot about Mastodon for a... bit :p

Been busy, and in the background listening to a bunch of Multiamory podcast eps. Really helpful stuff.

Currently in early stage talks with a couple with a possible view of dating them. I've not been a unicorn in a LONG time and these guys are complete newbs so I'm not sure if I'm just wasting my time, but I'm hoping at the very least they are more informed after talking with them and don't hurt people in their experimentings...

Show threadJerrik

@kalliope
As a dragon (male word for unicorn) I've seen that poly newbie couple treat me way differently than my unicorn friends, even when we date the same couple! Usually they are more inquisitive and respectful toward me, and more demeaning or dismissive of unicorns. As if I could teach them more just because I'm a "manly man".

I don't know if that's because I exert more confidence or if it's their inherent social upbringing still stuck in them. So please make sure you put YOU first.

Sep 17, 2018 at 4:38pmWeb
Show threadKalliopeSep 17, 2018
@Jerrik yeah I think that is social conditioning. But that's likely to be even worse in standard couples where the guy is het and looking only for a unicorn not a dragon (I prefer the term narwhal 😊!) it's been so long since I even entertained the idea but back in the day it was what I wanted with my whole heart. I'm very cautious now though, especially with newbs. At this point I'm not sure they are willing to do the work though, they are not showing enough curiosity or self reflection...