The last weeks, I have come to the conclusion that having a partner that really respects you - for the erson you are, makes a difference so big that words can hardly describe.
We don't agree on everything and both value the freedom to do our own things - instead of doing literally everything together.
Respect is also about listening. How much effect that can have, became clear:
Whoops - phone died prematurely. Anyway:
- When someone really listens, you'll notice. Personal example, switched to Signal, ditched FB/WA. Year later, she did the same bolt move, on her own.
- Follow up questions can be a good indictator. Told her about people I interact with. When I name Roman, she knows I am talking about Roman Zolotarev - "the great OpenBSD documenter".
- Even started stitching a Pluffy (pluche Puffy).
Ofcourse, it is key that these small investments come from both sides.
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