Okay I think I kinda figured it out (still a little unsure). I think both Nebularomantic and Idemromantic fit me as I feel as if my overall neurodivergency has something to do with my inability to differentiate between romantic and platonic attraction, but I still categorize them by specific actions that take place, the emotional/physical intimacy and what the other person defines it as! As well as societal standards on what a friendship or a romantic relationship are supposed to be/look like ^^
