One of the main takeaways I've had over the past few months is this: any programming you may be dealing with, no matter what that may entail, has a part(s), or alters, at the heart of them. They are just like any other part in your system in that regard.
It may take time, but raising awareness, showing love & compassion to programmed parts can make such a massive difference & break down the programming, & ultimately abusers' influence.