KnownHost lets you set your own delimiters for #SubAddressing , which is awesome
https://www.knownhost.com/kb/how-to-configure-subaddressing-plusaddressing-in-directadmin/
But, it's making config changes in a VPS. In this case I'm setting up for someone else who I don't want to depend on me for tech support
Seems to be common setup for #KnownHost so that might be sufficient, but I'd really prefer a mail hosting solution rather than VPS in this case
+ gets blocked by too many sites, so I'd have to provide too much tech support to go with plus or a catch-all