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Found out from a girl I just started talking to that two months ago my photos were put on a Facebook Group for “Are we dating the same guy?”.
We all know that gossip can happen. and relationships can end in a variety of ways. For the most part, I have been lucky to have dated mostly great women. While things did not work out the way either one intended started off it’s nice to say I met these people in life and have had a mostly positive relationship with them. Just not the right life timing for the fairytale ending. Resulting in the conclusion of events in an adult manner.
That said, since the pandemic the reality of the dating world has changed. Somehow I went from normal functional relationships to a mixed bag of:
> nefarious plots & agendas
> hidden pasts w/ dark lies
> assumptions I can read minds <I can’t use words to communicate>
>> and the one that this story is about – I’m jaded bc someone hurt me in the past now when things don’t work out I’m going to be the strong one and win by hurting them.
When things go south, it can get ugly (on both sides). People will assume what they will, but should be a private matter.
At least it used to be.
I hope most people can agree that if one person does something F-ed up to the other person, they need to own and accept being the the one who’s the A🕳 – own it with your rationale and hope time will heal.
But that’s not what happened here. While I do have one really bad break up story (that’s I’ll share another time), the situation we are discussing resulted from a girl I went out on one date with and after not even two drinks politely said “I don’t feel like this will ever work out, please allow me to not waste your time and take care of the drinks”. Her response was to start flipping out – cursing at me – in a fairly quiet bar, saying that I’m not all that… and – I’m the one who ….. well you get it.
I’ll just start in my defense, while this person was attractive her personality sucked and in the first 5 minutes did at least 3 things that really bothered me. No way I was going to drag this out any further at 4:30pm on a Saturday when she asks the bartender for a menu and says to me she’s so hungry.
If one person isn’t feeling it and the other person gets all psycho about being rejected sorry to say that happens sometimes. I should have know better when I kept telling her before we meet I just want to chat on the phone a bit to break the ice and discuss a few thoughts & ideas when meeting. While the other person makes dumb excuses to not take a 5 minute phone I should know that’s a red flag. BUT, me being an idiot this person was nice to look at and lived fairly close so I rolled the dice.
Besides physically meeting someone for about 30 minutes does not equate to anything close to a relationship so when she posted about the “meanest and most embarrassing way anyone can be DUMPED” I’m not even sure how that qualifies. While I was firm and direct with my tone, my words with nice and I offered to pay. She’s the one that made a big to-do about the whole thing.
Super messed up to start making up stories and put the other person on blast when you don’t even know their character as a whole.
BUT —– the cherry on top of this was another girl I dated for about 5/6 weeks commenting on the treads saying while I was a polite and nice person I totally led her on and then out of no where told her I wasn’t interested.
The one I actually dated for a bit said twice in her comments – “I’m flaky” and “made it seem like he wanted a relationship so I would sleep with him”.
> HA!!! you have to read the response to the girl I’m talking to now gives.
<1st me asking for the clarification on what saw saw to get the full story>
<the girl I just met texting the girl I dated for 5.5 weeks
– it’s beyond me how and why they exchanged numbers. >
It bothers me there is unsubstantiated claims that can be made against you by anonymous bloggers. Many of these people talking shit have been taken to court and made to pay defamation fines to the affected party.
If any of you care to know what happened and why I ended it with the 5 week dating chick. I won’t get into the one significant issues, as it’s a bit personal in nature but I’ll say the following factors:
- Seeing each other once a week, bc of completely different work schedules (weekday 9to5 vs mixed warehouse overnights)
- She couldn’t host bc of roommates and dogs where she lived
- Way to comfortable way too quick… I’ll stop there
I’ll end with this nugget of wisdom. Both girls had issues a lot of compounding bullshit resulting in the chick’s trying to have the metaphorical “dick” and be the ones fuck us.
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