After more than 12 years in Tollembeek, I'll be moving away in a couple of weeks.
Wanting to capture one last memory, I went out last weekend to photograph a specific street scene I had in mind.

I visited the location twice that day, hoping to catch it in the right light, but the sun had decided to stay hidden behind the clouds. No matter how long I waited, the conditions just weren't there, and the image I had envisioned never materialized.

A little disappointed, I decided to take a different route home. Along a small path through nature, I suddenly noticed this tiny raindrop hanging from a leaf.

Funny how things work out sometimes. You set out looking for one photograph and come home with another.

Looking at it now, it reminds me of a tear. Maybe that's why it caught my attention.

As the days count down, I find myself reflecting on the memories, the highs and lows, the struggles, the lessons, and all the moments that quietly became part of who I am. Then again, if you've followed me for a while, you probably already know I'm a nostalgic person.

The past year has been a quiet one creatively. Apart from the occasional snapshot, I haven't recorded any new music and have mostly been collecting ideas and plans for later. The last few months have been quite stressful, so my priority now is to decompress, settle in, and find some balance again. The ideas are still there, waiting for the right moment. Once the creative spark returns, I'll be ready to dive back into those projects.

I'll keep you posted.

A new adventure is waiting just around the corner. It won't be Ibiza, but I'm excited for what's ahead and grateful for everything I'm leaving behind. Sometimes the photographs we never planned to take end up telling the story we needed to tell.

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Why My Door Isn’t Just Locked, It’s Deadbolted

Hey guys, it’s Tina. Grab a coffee—or a glass of wine, I’m not judging—because we need to have a little “state of the union” meeting about my personal space.

You know that feeling when you finally clean out that one junk drawer in your kitchen? The one filled with dead batteries, mystery keys, and soy sauce packets from 2019? You feel lighter, right? Well, I’ve spent the last few months doing that, but with my life. And let me tell you, the “reorganization” is officially complete.

I recently shared a sentiment that I think a lot of us feel but are too “polite” to say out loud: Respectfully, please do not attempt to rekindle anything with me. It’s not beef, it’s closed. The door is closed. 💯

Moving Beyond the “Beef” Misconception

I think there’s this huge misconception that if you aren’t talking to someone, you must be “mad” or “holding a grudge.” People love drama. They want the tea. They want to know who said what and why I’m “beefing” with so-and-so.

But here’s the honest, human truth: I’m too tired for beef. Beef takes energy. Beef requires me to remember why I was annoyed in the first place. Keeping a grudge is like carrying a backpack full of bricks—it’s heavy, it makes your back hurt, and honestly? It’s just not a good look with my outfit.

When I say the door is closed, I’m not slamming it in a fit of rage. I’m closing it gently, turning the deadbolt, and walking away to go take a nap. It’s not about hate; it’s about finality.

Retiring from the “Queen of Second Chances”

We’ve all been there. You get that “Hey, thinking of you!” text at 11:00 PM on a Tuesday from someone you haven’t spoken to in two years. Or the “I saw this and thought of you” meme from the person who treated you like an option instead of a priority.

In the past, I was the Queen of the “Second (and Third, and Fourth) Chance.” I’d think, “Maybe they’ve changed!” or “It’s better to be nice than to be distant.” Spoiler alert: They usually haven’t changed, and being “nice” to people who drain your battery is just a slow way to go into low-power mode.

Closing the Door is Life Maintenance

Closing the door isn’t mean. It’s maintenance. Here is why I’m keeping my emotional bandwidth strictly for the people who matter:

1. Space is Limited

My life is a VIP lounge now, not a public park. I only have so much energy to give. If I’m spending time wondering if a “rekindled” friendship is going to blow up in my face again, I’m not spending that time on the people who have been standing by me all along.

2. Peace is Addictive

Once you experience a month of zero drama because you stopped letting “rekindlers” back in, you can’t go back. It’s like switching from dial-up internet to fiber optic. Why would I go back to the lagging and the noise?

3. No Hard Feelings, Just No Feelings

This is the part people find hardest to understand. You can forgive someone and still not want to grab lunch with them. I wish everyone the best! I hope they win the lottery. I hope they find their soulmate. I just hope they do it on the other side of that closed door.

You are Allowed to Outgrow People

If you’re reading this and feeling a little guilty about someone you’ve phased out—don’t. You are allowed to outgrow people. You are allowed to decide that a chapter is finished. You don’t owe anyone an “update” or a “re-entry” just because you used to be close.

Growth is messy, and sometimes growth means realizing that some people were meant to be a season, not a series.

So, to anyone wondering where I’ve been or why I’m not “circling back”: I’m busy enjoying the quiet. The door isn’t just closed; I’ve actually moved the furniture in front of it and decorated the hallway. It looks great in here.

Stay peaceful, stay picky, and keep those doors locked.

Love,

Tina

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Look ahead….
We’ve almost finished the final chaper of 2023.

Before we start the new book that is 2024, remember to carry forward the wisdom gained from 2023 and get ready for a the new book. With its pages and chapters full of possibilities, successes, challenges and surprises which will be 2024.

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