This framework isn't perfect. But, it is a tool to communicate about the experiences you are trying to create. And while emotions don't always map neatly into clear categories, this hierarchy provides some structure to help locate the right words to describe what you're feeling or wanting to feel.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on how this framework applies to kink. I'd also love to see how you apply it to your own interests or to explain a scene you'd like to engage in.

🧵 4/4

Applying this framework to myself:

In a submissive context, I relate most clearly to the `Afraid` category, especially in a power exchange dynamic (`Helpless > Powerless`). Bondage is a great way to achieve that. I want to feel `intimidated` (eg, by the dom's strength, control, or use of pain implements) and/or `exposed` (eg, nudity, or being restrained in a vulnerable position). By contrast, being bound and left alone does very little for me, or would benefit from further discussion.

For intense scenes, I want assurance that my needs are met. For this type of play, that means `Safety > Trust` to know that a partner isn't going to overstep what has been negotiated, as well as `Relationship > Caring` to know that physical/emotional health is a priority for them.

Feeling `Embarrassed` is also fun, but is balanced against a strong need for `Safety > Boundaries > Privacy`. Being in a private place, away from cameras, will feel much safer for me.

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Example 1:

Imagine someone says they want to be put in a cage. What type of experience are they looking for?

1. Are they looking to be treated like a pet? The `Accepted` category seems very relevant. Maybe they want their animal identity `Validated` or to feel like a `Cherished` pet.
2. Maybe they want to feel `Afraid`. `Powerless` to prevent what is happening to them. `Exposed` to whoever is outside the cage. `Intimidated` by their captor, or `Anxious` about what will happen next.
3. They could be made to feel `Alone` by leaving them in isolation with no contact. Or, at a party/gathering, they could be `Excluded` by being sent to their cage, not allowed to participate.
4. Or `Embarrassed`. They could be told that they are `Inferior` and that deserve to be caged. Or `Humiliated` by making them hold their bladder or behave like an animal.

While each of these is a variation on being put in a cage, the framework clarifies the overall tone of the scene.

🧵 2/4

30 days of chastity completed. Time for a well-deserved orgasm.

The plan: Light bondage + e-stim. Set the e-stim to slowly increase intensity, resulting in a maddening amount of edging followed by a hands-free orgasm. For maximum psychological impact: end the month of no-touching by orgasming without touching.

Reality: E-stim is fun at first, but after a full month locked up, holding an erection for a long teasing session didn't work out. Resorted to more mundane means to orgasm.

Planning to start a new (shorter?) session this week.

#chastity #orgasm

I plan to end this session after 30 days: four times my previous record. It seems a reward is in order for enduring this long. I'll have to think of something fun (or evil) to reward myself with, and then some new way to torment myself in my next chastity session.

(end day 29)