IN CONCLUSION, MY REAL POINT IS, THAT YOU ALL NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT EVEN THOUGH IT'S LABELED AND CONSIDERED AS A QUADRANT FUELED BY "HATE," KISSMESITIUDE IS MORE THAN THAT. SPADES CAN BE NICE TO EACH OTHER WHEN THE OTHER NEEDS IT. IN FACT, THAT SORT OF THING IS ENCOURAGED IF YOU WANT A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP OF ANY SORT. THAT'S JUST A GENERAL RULE. SPADES CAN HAVE BOUNDARIES BETWEEN WHAT CAN AND CANNOT BE MADE FUN OF, AND STILL BE A FUNCTIONAL COUPLE THAT JOKES AND 'ANNOYS' EACH OTHER. IT'S JUST IMPORTANT TO MAKE SURE THAT MUTUAL RESPECT IS THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE? YOU KNOW? ANYWAYS. IF YOU GOT TO THIS POINT I SINCERELY THANK YOU FOR READING THE PURE AND UNFILTERED RAMBLINGS OF A MAD MAN, BECAUSE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT TO ME AS A WHOLE, AND IT IRRITATES ME WHEN THOSE THINGS ARE MISINTERPRETED OR EVEN POKED FUN OUT. SO YES, ERIDAN, I CAN SEND HEARTS TO MY GODDAMN KISSMESIS WITHOUT IT MEANING I'M HORNY ON MAIN. GO HOP ON SOMEONE ELSE'S BULGE. (5/5)

EXAMPLES OF HEALTHY KISSMESITUDE GO EVEN FURTHER THAN JUST RESPECTING THE BOUNDARIES OF THE OTHER PARTY, THOUGH. AS YOU CAN SEE BETWEEN THE DYNAMIC BETWEEN ME AND @heirofbreath (WHO IS PROBABLY GOING TO HATE BEING TAGGED IN THIS ESSAY), WE BOTH CARE FOR EACH OTHER TO THE EXTENT WHERE JOHN K HAS GONE TO REMIND ME THAT I TAKE MY MEDS SO THAT I DO FEEL WELL. KISMESITUDE IS ABOUT THE OPPOSITE OF DRAGGING EACH OTHER DOWN. SOME MIGHT EVEN SAY IT'S A FORM OF TOUGH LOVE? BUT THAT PHRASE ON IT'S OWN HAS CONNOTATIONS THAT I'M NOT WILLING TO DISCUSS IN LENGTH ON MASTODON. (4/?)

NOW, BACK TO TALKING ABOUT BASIC BOUNDARIES THAT SHOULD BE SET IN A KISSMESITIUDE. THERE ARE PROBABLY MORE, BUT THESE ARE JUST SOME THAT COME TO MIND IN THE CERTAIN MOMENT.
- MUTUAL RESPECT
- DON'T SPADE WHILE THE OTHER PERSON CLEARLY ISN'T FEELING WELL, OR IN THE RIGHT MENTAL PLACE FOR SOMETHING LIKE THAT
- DON'T SAY ANYTHING THAT GENUINELY IS GOING TO SEND THE OTHER PERSON INTO A BAD PLACE (I.E. SENSITIVITIES, INSECURITIES, ECT.)
- DON'T CAUSE REAL PHYSICAL OR MENTAL HARM TO THE OTHER PERSON (THIS SHOULD BE A BASIC RULE WITH ANYONE WITH A HALF A PAN)
AS YOU CAN SEE, PARTIES WHO DEFINITELY AND GENUINELY HATE AND CANNOT BE AROUND EACH OTHER WOULDN'T ADHERE TO THESE SORTS OF BOUNDARIES, MUCH LESS THE MUTUAL RESPECT PART, WHICH IS WHY MANY KISSMESITUDES DO NOT WORK OUT! (3/?)

KISSMESITUDE IS WHAT I FIND ONE OF THE FUNNEST QUADRANTS IF YOU DO IT RIGHT. THERE ARE CERTAIN BOUNDARIES THAT SHOULD AND HAVE TO BE ESTABLISHED BETWEEN BOTH PARTIES IN ORDER FOR THIS TO HAPPEN THOUGH. WHILES SPADES' MAIN INTENTION IS TO JOKINGLY POKE AT EACH OTHER, THERE IS DEFINITELY AN ABUNDANCE OF CARE AND RESPECT FOR THE OTHER PERSON (AS SHOULD BE IN ANY FUNCTIONING AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP, WHETHER HATE BASED OR NOT), AND A LOT OF PEOPLE TEND TO FORGET THAT, TO THE POINT WHERE YOU SEE MANY TROLLS IN SPADES THAT SHOULDN'T HAVE HAPPENED IN THE FIRST PLACE! (2/?)

A MINI ESSAY ON THE SPADE:
DESPITE WHAT THE PUBLIC THINKS, AND THE IMPRESSIONS THAT MANY ROMANTIC FILMS GIVE OFF, KISSMESISITUDE IS NOT A QUADRANT THAT IS PURELY HATE. BEING THAT PURELY HATE EACH OTHER SHOULD NOT AND CANNOT BE IN A HEALTHY QUAD TOGETHER, SAVE FOR AUSTPISTIUDE, WHICH EVEN THEN WOULDN'T BE LOGICAL IF THE TWO PARTIES THAT HATED EACH OTHER DIDNT HAVE TO INTERACT IN THE FIRST PLACE (MORE ON THAT LATER). EVEN THAT SORT OF AUSPISTITUDE WOULD BE EXHAUSTING FOR THE AUSPICTICE, IF YOU KNEW ANYTHING ABOUT KISMESISTUDE, IT'S A QUADRANT MADE TO BETTER BOTH PARTIES AND PUSH THEM TOWARD BEING BETTER PEOPLE IN GENERAL. (1/?)