That childhood exchange with my grandmother? Funny at the time, but a reminder that these ideas are learned early and stick around.
Skin colour shouldn’t determine anyone’s worth. India, it’s time we get over this obsession.

5/5

For me, & countless others, everyday language wheatish, dusky, fair shapes perceptions, opportunities, and sometimes self-worth.The solution? Simple, really. Media and advertising need to stop equating value with skin tone. Matrimonial and professional spaces should prioritize skills, character, and compatibility over complexion & everyday conversations yes, even casual ones at family dinners must ditch the colourist commentary.

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Her skin colour even got tied to her “sex appeal.” Yet she stuck to her principles, rejecting lucrative fairness-brand endorsements over the years.
Bipasha’s experience underscores how pervasive this obsession is—even in professional and public life, dark skin is marked, defined, and commodified.

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Actress Bipasha Basu recently opened up about her experiences with colourism, and spoiler: it’s a long story. Growing up in Kolkata, her family called her “dusky” compared to her fairer sister. That adjective stuck. When she started modelling, newspapers dubbed her the “dusky girl from Kolkata,” and Bollywood audiences were introduced to her the same way.

2/5

India’s obsession with fairness is systematic. Dark-skinned people are judged, consciously or unconsciously, in jobs, marriage, and social interactions. Colourism reduces a complex human being to a single superficial trait. Casual remarks, media portrayals, and matrimonial ads normalize it, embedding the idea that fairness is a prerequisite for success or desirability.

1/5

Corporate math

$186,000/yr expenditure.
Hire someone @ $220,000/yr to get it under control equates to $186,000
yearly cost savings.

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I hope it’s someone who never makes me doubt my place in their life, someone who chooses me every single day without hesitation. I want love that feels safe, love that doesn’t make me compete for attention. I hope it’s someone who sees my flaws and still believes I’m worthy, someone who doesn’t walk away when things get heavy.

Because this time, I don’t want love that breaks me, I want love that heals.

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And when love finds me again, I hope it’s someone who won’t let me go through the same pain I’ve already survived. I hope it’s someone who knows how to hold me on my bad days, who listens even when I don’t have the right words, and who reminds me that I’m worth staying for.

1/2

https://dayalshankargiri.wordpress.com/2025/12/06/redefining-success-beyond-achievements/

Ever felt like hitting all your goals still leaves you searching for something more? Success isn’t just about achievements it’s about peace, resilience, and redefining what truly matters.