@MexicanYenta

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I brake for babka & tamales #MeFite #EatTheRich she/her/mefite
BreedGinger Tabby
FlavorSea Salt Caramel
GenreTexas Blues
LocationOn your left
@indi some places will insist on originals, iirc.
@indi That has truly been the most difficult thing for me. That, and an old cooking spoon she’d had since I was a small child. I still use that all the time.

@indi oh hell, my dad died in 2007 and some of the utilities are still in his name. The only thing I’ve switched to my name is the internet bill.

You’re supposed to notify social security, but IME the funeral home does it anyway. Also, they will tell you to order 10-15 copies of the death certificate but I’ve only ever used maybe 3.

@indi ugh, I’m sorry.
This may be the most helpful advice I can give you through all this: do NOT go through her purse/wallet. Put it in the bottom of a box or closet and forget it exists. It was incredibly triggering for me, anyway. And 9 years on, I *have* looked at her wallet but still haven’t been able to throw anything in it away. It’s like the final erasure.
@indi yeah especially with you not having a local support system of family and friends to help.
@indi something “something…white men…something something”
@indi yeah, my family came over to escape the Russian pogroms around 1900. I have an upright freezer fully stocked. 😂
@indi although that would seem to possibly be a learned behavior - if your mom hoarded supplies of food “just in case”, you might also.