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Amy Diehl, Ph.D.Empathy tax: Study (N=350) finds 82% of professional women spent at least 30% of workweek listening to anxieties, offering encouragement or monitoring how people are feeling. Many men didn’t see such work happening around them; women described it as commonplace. https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/the-empathy-tax-female-leaders-pay/
SecondUniverse (she/her/they)@amydiehl That's just being human. Of course we should care for the people around us! Better to say male leaders are doing empathy tax evasion!
Leslie Burns@SecondUniverse
Very, very good idea!
That VW Guy@amydiehl If one of my coworkers or boss asked me how I was feeling, I would resign that day.
Birdhouse in Your [Redacted]@amydiehl I would love to send this to colleagues, is there a version they can read without giving personal id info?
@amydiehl there is it without the dickover
chiasm@coolandnormal @amydiehl Thank you!
Anna@amydiehl wait. Wow. I'm all for working with people on their concerns -- but during work hours! The idea that you would text somebody at 2:00 a.m. about work concerns, and they are not friends or family, is mind-boggling to me. The idea that you would call a colleague--not a friend-- at 7:30 pm in order to stress about what's going on at work strikes me as just bizarre.😡 My entire field is being destroyed but we talk about it at work, or vent over coffee. We don't expect stress texts at 2 am.
Tokyo Outsider (337ppm)@amydiehl Men notice it when it doesn't happen.
ModernMaslow@amydiehl And there's STILL a massive deficit in key geopolitical leaders in the world, who are women.
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Marta 🌿🍃@amydiehl Idk about leaders per se, but in all my time at work I don't remember people complaining at me for unrelated matters. It was long before I adopted communications as my special interest, so I probably just stared blankly, waiting for them to produce some work question. Even my friends wouldn't complain to me about their break-ups and such, maybe because I'd try to solve the problem instead of making soothing noises.
I only read the start of the article, but no, as a leader, you don't answer employees at 2am, and don't even have notifications on at that time. I'd expect a male leader to ignore it, and then maybe say something semi-sarcastic in the work hours, to discourage such behaviour. And I'd recommend the same to a woman leader if she ever complains to me about that :) Boundaries, lack of boundaries is what I see in that article.
I only read the start of the article, but no, as a leader, you don't answer employees at 2am, and don't even have notifications on at that time. I'd expect a male leader to ignore it, and then maybe say something semi-sarcastic in the work hours, to discourage such behaviour. And I'd recommend the same to a woman leader if she ever complains to me about that :) Boundaries, lack of boundaries is what I see in that article.
Tim Severien@amydiehl A colleague of mine recently noted that the mental health exercises HR shared are “nonsense.” Guess their gender.
In my personal experience, women are generally much more emotionally mature than men, and make better conversation partners when it comes to mental health, motivation, workplace psychology, etc.
I like how you describe it as a *tax*, rather than something to celebrate, because it unearths how uneducated men can be, and thus the burden falls on women.