Bumper Harvest2d ago

im gonna put a poll below this lol

edit: so this has got way more attention than the usual 7 or so responses I generally get on polls (and it keeps going) and for that I'm going to mute the thread for a bit. It's getting a bit overwhelming.

If you're someone who had parents, that while not perfect, at least tried, I genuinely hope you appreciate how luck you are, and cherish that.

Those of you who did not, and found yourselves checkinging multiple options, I just want to let you know you're seen and heard, even if I havent responded to every comment, I have read them. Your experiences were valid, and no amount of gaslighting will ever take away your truth. I hope you all find, or have found, the path towards healing, however that may look for you.

Show threadBumper Harvest2d ago
multiple choice for those of us who were multi-talented
tomboy
sensitive
mature
quiet
self-sufficient
lazy
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@MelkyWay Sensitive, mature, lazy tomboy checking in.

My mom genuinely did her best I think, but she was raised by deeply conservative and elderly parents and had traumas from her childhood that she hadn't acknowledged or dealt with, and my father was very abusive to her, and her way of coping was to just keep pushing and pushing and pushing forward, never slow down, never self-reflect, never let the bad things catch up to her, and she did try to pass that mentality along to me. She has made huge strides and gotten better as she's gotten older. Unfortunately the damage is already done.

It's validating to see so many other people talking about similar experiences, though. Sad, but validating.

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@greengaybles

traumas from her childhood that she hadn't acknowledged or dealt with

this part right here! as an adult, it was so much easier to look back and see that my parents were terribly unhealed people.
It's healing to see so many milennial parents out there trying so hard to finally break these cycles and refusing to pass their trauma down.

It's validating to see so many other people talking about similar experiences, though. Sad, but validating.

same, friend. I half want to mute this because it's a little overwhelming right now, and I did not expect it to blow up like it did at all. There is comfort in knowing we weren't suffering alone, and I hope the people in this thread have been able to find peace and the neccessary therapy and/or coping mechanisms, because this crap is not easy, if at all possible, to recover from.