Retro-Hax

What is so super about "Hook Ups"?

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What is so super about "Hook Ups"? - feddit.org

Like i dont seem to get it >.> Like having just meet ups for Sexual Intercourse is just “weird” >.> Like i get it if your like having Sex with your Partner atleast because its your Partner :P But having SEx with STrangers is just like WTF >.> I dont understand it at all tho :c

Apr 14 at 1:54amWeb
Show threadShadow19h ago
Not as good as being with someone whom you have a close emotional bond with, but way better than masturbating.
Show threadRetro-Hax19h ago

For me i am honestly more of a Fan of honestly just a Fan of Masturbating honestly >.>
Like i do have Friends with “Thicc Bodies” who even made Advances towards me but i was just always like no :(

Just seems weird to me to have Sex with “not your Partner” basically for me :(
Like i am SOMEWHERE on the Ace Spectrum but like itd rather have Sex with my Partner who i trust more and have more of an Emotional Bond with than my Friends >.>

Show threadnomad19h ago

That’s fine because good sex is about intimacy. Intimacy is something reserved for very close people. Sounds pretty normal for somebody with a partner. Hookup culture is maybe a way to help with the loneliness and maybe stumbling into a relationship or even avoiding it.

Anxiously avoidant people for example prefer swapping partners regularly to avoid the emotional bond to their partners forming.

There are asexual people for sure, but there are much more suppressing their urges or preferring to masturbate to avoid closeness.

Show threadRetro-Hax19h ago
I dont have a Partner at all XD
Besides i am lonely ut sadly most People just fetishize me and thats just sto gross for me that i cant ever do any kind of Hookups >.>
Show threadnomad14h ago
That’s my point though. Social media is not the place for this. Get a healthy outlet with a professional that can help and knows what you are going through.
Show threadDr. Bob19h ago
It can be fun, and a great boost to the ego to know you are desirable. It can sometimes be easier to be open with a stranger knowing that you will probably never see them again. People do this kind of thing on holiday all the time, relax and maybe try something a little new.
Show threadRetro-Hax18h ago
eh i nowadays dont even care about being desireable considering that what i “attract” is mostly Creepy Weirdo Men who wanna Fetishize me in a Weird Way >.>
Sadly i am also too far away for most People considering that the Next Major Big Cities are 2 Hours away -.-
Also it takes quite a Mental toll on me to travel 2 Hours via Train to someone as most just wanna have Sex and thats it >.>
Itd rather chill with those People maybe walk with them around with a bit and after a few more Times then “hit it off” but sadly many People dont operate on that :(
Also most People are very much trapped in that Dom or Sub Only Type Bullshit and its quite Hard to get Power Bottoms or similiar People like me even who just wanna Chill in Public with them >.>
Show threadDr. Bob10h ago
I missed the sub when I replied, apologies. All of that is OK too. There are times when I don’t feel like sex and I have declined partners and strangers. It works for some of us and not for others. I don’t like soup either. It’s not a preference, I just don’t. Don’t feel bad for how you are.
Show threadCarbonIceDragon18h ago
Are they actually strangers at that point in a hook-up? Ive no personal familiarity with the concept but I guess I was under the impression there was an element of socializing/getting to know the other person after meeting up with them before things proceeded, at least so the people involved could get comfortable enough with eachother?
Show threadRetro-Hax18h ago
My First Boyfriend ever was at 19 Years Old a 28 Year Old Guy who i find quite attractive >.>
tho after a Month of then also immidially Dating they dropped me basically for a 16 Year Old which was basically the sole Reason of me saying F It to Hookups in general -.-
Show threadDr. Bob10h ago
Usually yes, there is some socializing. There are situations such as in sex clubs or similar situations where there is minimal communication. Allegedly in Berghein there is a room that is pitch black and you enter wearing nothing but socks. In those cases it is just about sex.
Show threadSuperNovaStar9h ago

That’s what I was going to say, certainly anyone I interact with doesn’t stay a stranger very long. Especially because I tend to view sex as a way of getting to know someone and showing them love and affection.

I can’t say that I’ve ever had sex with a stranger but I have definitely had sex with people I only met a few hours ago. Even though we didn’t keep seeing each other I do really like them and would probably be friends if we lived near one another.

Show threadleriotdelac16h ago

I know a few couples that were hook-up partners in the beginning and managed to build strong relationships with each other. On another hand, I know people who dated for a long time and then realized they’re not the ones for each other. Go guess!

Also, for some other a hookup might be a low-pressure adventure, and others, naturally, compensate deeper issues with quick sex.

Show threadAielman1513h ago
I feel like it’s for people who like sex but don’t care about forming a lasting relationship. It’s massively unappealing to me, but so is porn, and that’s certainly pretty popular across the globe and ages, so what do I know.