[whenever i need repair or maintance in my house] going out of my way to commnicate my needs to strangers, often including private health information i wish i didn't need to disclose to be believed, so they can plan around my disabilities with the least inconvenience to them.

[whenever i need a professional to help me] sitting around in waiting mode for many hours because i understand asking the professional to communicate about their planning better would be a waste of spoons.

[a few years ago when i could still] travel for many hours to a social event because i want to be there so much that i am i still willing to go there knowing i risk many days or even weeks of feeling miserable from having traveled.

[at most of my grandparents past birthdays] sitting outside on a bench or on the ground, in the rain or in sunshine that gives me a headache, because it's more important to not offend the one uncle who wants to smoke than to make sure the asthma patient can breathe.

bringing my own food to a social event because 'my allergies are too complicated'.

should i go on?

Here's another one for you: cishet people acknowledging how often queer folks accommodate them.

We give them art, fashion, music, dance,.. culture.. and we support them emotionally through their relationships.

Because, y'know.. we want them to succeed. To say nothing of what we endure on their behalf.

@skippingmoonrocks