I like Bumble's model better than Tinder's. It makes way more sense for hetro dating to normalise the woman choosing from her matches and sending the first message, rather than drowning in a flood of naff texts and dic pics from potential suitors. Also men don't have our confidence eroded by a flood of implicit rejections, so it's better for us too. *Especially* those of us with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.

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#Bumble #RSD

@actuallyadhd

A week ago I said I was back on Tinder. So far, as usual, it's been a grim and completely unproductive waste of life.

Now I learn - thanks to @thenewoil and others who've shared the link here - instead of letting people pick photos for their dating profiles, Tinder are going to force them to let a Trained #MOLE DataFarm their personal photo collections and do it for them;

https://www.404media.co/tinder-plans-to-let-ai-scan-your-camera-roll/

So back to Bumble ...

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#enshittification #DatingApps #Tinder

I tried to login to Bumble at the time, but oh that's right, on mobile they force us to use their proprietary app. So I shelved that, and today I logged in using the web app ... which they tell me they're discontinuing soon. So the only way to use Bumble will be with the mobile app. FFS.

It really is time to build a federated dating network ...

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#enshittification #DatingApps #Bumble

Having said that, I'm going to miss Bumble (unless they publish full source code for their mobile app and get it into F-Droid, which seems unlikely). Everything about the way it works is better than Tinder (the only 2 I've tried so far), from letting women send the first message to matches, to the way they lay out profiles.

* photo with age

Then as I scroll down;

* photo 2 with personal details

* more photos with response to prompts

* photo with location

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That makes sense, since apparently Bumble was started by some women who'd got frustrated with Tinder. I'm guessing they took VC, because that's been the standard way of starting a new online service for a couple of decades, and now they've lost control of the company. Because the enshittification that's underway must be just as frustrating for them as it is for anyone else.

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It would be great to get some of the Bumble founders involved in developing a federated replacement for the rapidly enshittifying Tinder, Bumble, etc. I can imagine them bringing some great insights to both a UX and Trust & Safety aspects. I wonder how I'd go about making contact with them?

OTOH any woman reading this could too if they've had horrific experiences with online dating designed by men, or been frustrated with the enshittification of existing dating apps.

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@screwlisp @strypey I will read it properly tomorrow, but Bumble is dire at Trust and Safety.

Whitney (Bumble) is sensible in one sense, in that she has seen that dating apps are going nowhere and they have broken themselves with the swipe model - So last I heard, she was going for a more in-person networking and activity friendship model. But I dunno, I am not at all convinced. She's a billionaire anyway, so what does she care?

Computer #dating has a pretty long history of success, and the model didn't change drastically from its invention over 60 years ago (I wrote my first one in 1983, so I was late to the game!) until it had to be adapted for small devices and short attention spans. I imagine there's still space for going back to the old model, and taking it out of the hands of Match Group would be great.

That being said, these days the cool kids are meeting via hashtags and mutual interest site areas - if someone is looking for their perfect Swiftie, Pokemon fan partner, then they are going to look at people with a history of posting and commenting on both of those topics on TikTok (for example), where the interest can't be faked. It's really a very good, naturally made model that a commercial site can't replicate.

I suppose the next move would be for hashtags like #looking or #available to evolve and be properly adopted, then it would be even more in the open. For all I know, they already have! I am somewhat of a dinosaur outside of my own areas :)

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@lorry
> Bumble is dire at Trust and Safety

Care to expand on that or link me?

> Whitney (Bumble) [is] a billionaire anyway, so what does she care?

I presume she didn't found Bumble by herself, maybe wasn't even part of the original group (as with Melon Husk and Tesla). What about the rest of them?

@screwlisp

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@lorry
> I imagine there's still space for going back to the old model

There's plenty of new models to be tried that would be a huge improvement over playing hashtag roulette, either on DataFarms or decentralised social networks. One idea I saw was online dating as a group-based social experience. This is a handwave in the right direction. As is @cy's idea about matchmakers in another branch of this thread.