For Autistics, how people-pleasing usually develops is when the people around you are either telling you explicitly or kind of subtly giving you the message over and over and over, that your natural autistic reactions to things aren’t acceptable. 1/3
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"It’s not okay for you to react like that". "It’s not okay for you to talk like that, to ask direct questions, to be sensitive to your environment in the way that you are".
And then how some people respond to getting those messages is by learning to hide their reactions so that they please the people around them, to meet their expectations, to be who they’re implicitly told to be.
Autistic people pleasing includes plenty of downsides, but have you thought of the positives that it prevents? In fact, it blocks us from being able to engag...
Heather Cookđź––Autistic Coach