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So there is this thing about minimal hugs someone needs... At least 4 preferably 8 or more. [1]

Assuming you like hugs, how many a day are you getting?

#hugs #polls #lonelyness

[1] https://www.restonyc.com/how-many-hugs-does-a-human-need-a-day/ this isn't actual research as far as I know.

8+
4.3%
4 to 8
9.6%
1 to 4
35.1%
less than 1 day.
51.1%
Poll ended at .
Mar 19 at 11:10pmWeb
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago

Looking at the results do far, there could be a real and serious hug shortage.

Assuming there is and especially if it applies to you, what tactics are you willing or wanting to deploy to remedy this?

#hugs #community #lonelyness

Go out and offer free hugs
18.5%
cultivate hug behavior in friends group
74.1%
medicate
3.7%
invent a hug credit (tm) system (with blockchain;)
3.7%
Poll ended at .
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago
If you pick medicate, feel free to share recommendations for meds. ;)
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉3d ago

So we have a serious perceived hug shortage. Luckily, many people are cultivating hug behavior in their friends groups and some are out on the streets helping out strangers and them selves 🎉. Good job!

Not everyone likes hugs though, and we might have these in our friends group, we still might want to support them. How would you handle that?

#hugs #polls #community

Vocalize how much we appreciate them even more.
63.6%
Ask&try different forms of physical contact
31.8%
Offer medication
0%
They have to find different friends... ❤️‍🩹
4.5%
Poll ended at .
Show threadAmy2d ago
@wmd so.... I would describe myself as "weird about hugs". I think my mom tried to push them too much on me as a child or something. Not sure what I really want though, its not that I dont desire hugs sometimes, and these days I try to practice them sometimes. Either way I think it depends a lot on my mood, how safe I feel about the other person, how I am approached about it, and probably some other factors I dont fully understand myself yet.
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago
@amy hmm, I dont think there is anything weird about wanting hugs, not wanting hugs, having a manual for hugs, being alternating about hugs or not even knowing what you want with hugs. All perfectly fine states of being.
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago
I do hope whoever voted for blockchain based credit system for hugs is trolling. Sexwork is fine and useful, so if you want to sell hugs go for it. But please don't turn the social practice of hugging into an accounting system. :)
Show threadPatrick Dersjant RCX2d ago
@wmd yeah, well, putting that option in there was provoking it wasn’t it? 🤗
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago
@patrick yes :)
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉3d ago

In the previous poll there was the mention and assumption of 'needing' hugs, and having a shortage. But how many hugs would you -want- is maybe the important question here. On average.

Sorry, running again as 1h isn't fair for timezones.
#hugs #poll

None.
16%
1 to 4 a day
52%
4 to 8 a day
4%
There is no limit, I just want all the hugs.
28%
Poll ended at .
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago
With the limited numbers so far, this seems to hint at shortage though, over 80% wants hugs, and of those a lot less are getting them less then once a day.
Show threadKaliah2d ago
@wmd I'm late, but none. Absolutely 0.
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago
@Kaliah hmm I had set this wayy too short.
Show threadKaliah2d ago
@wmd Haha no worries, I thought that may have happened.
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉2d ago

To clarify, I don't think how, when or if you want hugs makes anyone weird. While there is research showing benefits of touch and compression, that as a cultural concept it can communicate care and affection, in the end it is personal and complicated.

I dont object to people medicating for it if needed; your body, your choice. But I do wish people to stay safe. Pushing drugs, medication or hugs on people is never ok I think. Pushing anything on anyone for that matter.

I do like hugs.

Show threadKaren D 🇨🇦5d ago

@wmd

20 years(or so) ago, I worked with this lovely woman. Charlotte Diamond was(is?)a children's performer and I believe she has the answer you are looking for...
Four Hugs a Day: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=vkCzJ4B7k8s&feature=share

Four Hugs a Day

Charlotte Diamond

YouTube Music
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago

@KarenDorman I'm now wondering if kids that will like this, are also familiar with maximum and minimum... 🤔

The idea of a minimum number I'm familiar with. But I am wondering if people are getting anywhere close to that.

Show threadKaren D 🇨🇦4d ago
@wmd
I suspect my own kids actually learned the meaning of the words maximum and minimum from that song. They were about 3, 5 and 6 and spent time with her. 🥰
Show threadKaren D 🇨🇦4d ago
@wmd
Yes. And even with a partner in my life, when things get busy or stressful, hugs are the first things to get skipped over...when they should be the priority and increased. Good hugs are the cement in treasured friendships.
Show threadKoen4d ago
@wmd it really depends on the day of the week. Most weekdays I get zero hugs. But on weekends I get to compensate <3
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago
@koen 🫂
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago
@koen so at least 28 hugs on the weekend? 🤔
Show threadKoen4d ago
@wmd, probably. It depends on how you define the duration of 1 hug. Cause that is when my partner comes over and we usually cuddle a lot.
Show threadLenora4d ago
@wmd some people are not huggers
Show thread🌈☔🌦️🍄🌱🍉4d ago
@FaithinBones yes, hence the "assuming you like hugs". The question isn't for those who don't want hugs.