And it would also depend on what they said when I asked the question I've learned is crucial if you want to help someone: "Would you like some advice? Or would you prefer sympathy?" N.b.: It's critical that you *mean it*, that you be willing to provide either, and not look down on sympathy as being "lesser" than advice. Maybe remember a time in your own life when you've wanted sympathy, not advice. 2/3
