@scalzi Some 40+ years ago, I asked @dianeduane to talk the LGBTQ group at CSUN about being a writer. She very kindly obliged. Since then I've read the novels and story universes she talked about at that meeting. It just took what Ida Rolf called "The compound essence of time" for them to make themselves known. I know how lucky I was to have something like that happen even back then.
I can't image it's gotten any easier for writers to divide their time between their work, their private life, and "other". Strangely that set of access points maps exactly to UNIX permission sets for owner, group, world. When an author posts on social media, goes to a convention, or smiles and takes a selfie with a fan, they're giving up some of their time to "other".
Sometimes book group members can be kinda hard core about their books.