"becoming okay with getting old" hits hard for me
and yea. realising one day you feel alive, and not quite knowing when it started exactly but knowing why and knowing you wouldn't give it up for anything in this world
taking what you need to be happy. being told it's wrong. knowing it's right, the most right thing you've ever done in your life.
@darkphoenix Aaaaaaaahhhh, this post and your comments are gonna make me cry at work ​
Too relatable.

@darkphoenix

yeah

honestly? hitting my mid-30s and seeing my hairline start to drift was one of the kicks-in-the-ass I got from fate

I didn't want to grow old. I mean, in the man way. women? goddesses as they age. beautiful.

anyway I felt like it was all downhill from there and I'd already experienced the best of my life

I had a meh marriage, an okay job, a house, two cats and two cars and a life insurance policy and a respectable civic life and ... okay not that many friends. but that's okay

I legitimately remember sitting in my chair, looking at the ceiling, thinking of everything I had and the life I was living and thinking "is this all there is?"

well as it turns out

@darkphoenix that's the hardest sometimes ​
@darkphoenix ngl im still down with immortalism
@darkphoenix for me not wanting to die is very normal, and something to fight for
@darkphoenix like wrinkles whatever ig but pain, frailty and death, fuck no
I... honestly don't know if it's possible to convey the joy that is transitioning to someone who hasn't experienced it. Like. I barely have the words to explain "I feel happy and alive in ways I didn't know it was possible for me to feel, and I genuinely didn't realise this is what I was missing but now it's the most precious thing in my life" to someone who hasn't had that before and after experience

@darkphoenix hmm but then, I don’t feel the same. I personally had very different positives :3

but at least the „I genuinely didn’t realise this is what I was missing but now it’s the most precious thing in my life“ part is 100% a shared feeling here~

@darkphoenix beautiful! ​
@jiub "it's realizing you're alive one day" ​
this line applies to so much more than transitionning, it's beautiful
@darkphoenix yeah, and as I have been finding, some steps are bigger than others, often in unexpected ways.

I didn't realize just how much certain things would matter in terms of reconciliation how I see myself and think of myself.

@darkphoenix I realised yesterday that until I knew I wanted to bodymod my way through transition, I had never had an Actual Life Goal before. until then, I'd always just figured I'd see what life threw at me.

sure I've had goals before, but this is the only thing I've ever truly yearned for in my future. the one that would undoubtedly be a deathbed regret if I failed to reach out and take it for myself.

no wonder I've been single-mindedly pursuing it to the exclusion of everything else. it's the first thing in my life that's actually mattered on that level.

@darkphoenix i hate to think that people around me are changing far beyond what i can expect and that we'll grow incompatible as the years go on, i try not to think about it, and yet, i feel like my friends' happiness is far more important than whether we stay friends in 5 years or 10