yeah
honestly? hitting my mid-30s and seeing my hairline start to drift was one of the kicks-in-the-ass I got from fate
I didn't want to grow old. I mean, in the man way. women? goddesses as they age. beautiful.
anyway I felt like it was all downhill from there and I'd already experienced the best of my life
I had a meh marriage, an okay job, a house, two cats and two cars and a life insurance policy and a respectable civic life and ... okay not that many friends. but that's okay
I legitimately remember sitting in my chair, looking at the ceiling, thinking of everything I had and the life I was living and thinking "is this all there is?"
well as it turns out
@darkphoenix hmm but then, I don’t feel the same. I personally had very different positives :3
but at least the „I genuinely didn’t realise this is what I was missing but now it’s the most precious thing in my life“ part is 100% a shared feeling here~
@darkphoenix I realised yesterday that until I knew I wanted to bodymod my way through transition, I had never had an Actual Life Goal before. until then, I'd always just figured I'd see what life threw at me.
sure I've had goals before, but this is the only thing I've ever truly yearned for in my future. the one that would undoubtedly be a deathbed regret if I failed to reach out and take it for myself.
no wonder I've been single-mindedly pursuing it to the exclusion of everything else. it's the first thing in my life that's actually mattered on that level.