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1) Understanding the oppression of children as a group (adultism), the wounds we carry from that oppression, and how we go about healing those effects in our co-counseling sessions.

2) The ways in which adultism gets internalized, so that children come to view themselves -- and view other children -- in the same negative light in which the adult world views them.

3) The counseling technique for this lesson is called "Deep Decisions We Made in Childhood." You probably made one or more of the following decisions at some point in your childhood. It’s unlikely that you stated them aloud; these are stands we took inside of ourselves, sometimes imagining ourselves saying them to another person.

I WILL NEVER FORGET WHAT HAPPENED HERE / WHAT WAS DONE HERE. (outrageous wrongs that were done, for example, to us or to people we cared about)

I WILL NEVER BE LIKE YOU. (toward a mean or violent parent, for example)

YOU WILL NEVER GET ME TO BELIEVE THAT WHAT YOU DID WAS OKAY.

I WILL NEVER MAKE ANYONE FEEL THE WAY YOU MAKE ME FEEL.

I'M NOT WHO YOU SAY I AM, I NEVER WAS, AND I NEVER WILL BE.

I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU. (to someone we loved, or a pet we loved)

I WILL ALWAYS STAND BY THE PEOPLE I LOVE. (when we felt under pressure to betray a person or a group we cared about)

I SWEAR TO ALWAYS TREASURE THIS PLACE. (some outdoor spot that was precious to you, for example, or a beloved town you had to move away from)

I SWEAR TO ALWAYS BE KIND TO MYSELF. YOU WILL NOT MAKE ME HATE MYSELF.

I WILL STAY TRUE TO MYSELF. I WILL BE WHO I REALLY AM.

I REFUSE TO FOLLOW THE CROWD. I WON'T GIVE IN TO THE SOCIAL PRESSURE TO BE MEAN TO PEOPLE.

I WILL REMAIN KIND AND LOVING DESPITE ALL THE CRUELTY THAT HAS HAPPENED AROUND ME.

If none of these touches a chord in you, see if you can come up with your own. It might be a commitment you remember having made, or it could be a guess you’re making now about a commitment you might have made but eventually forgot about. (And you may have kept the commitment, or largely kept it, even if you have no clear memory of having made it!)