I used to think cybersecurity meant safety —
that hacker culture was about doing what’s right, even if it breaks the rules.

Turns out, they were just securing their own reputation.

Security is about anything but trust.
And trust isn’t a gift — it’s a transaction.

I stopped letting men write the terms.

Survivors: you’re not dramatic for setting boundaries.
You’re not unprofessional for speaking out.
You’re not alone.